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What is the problem?

Yep I've had yet another argument but this time I just think what's the point? I mean I think that every time and yet she gets back into my head and give it another go and things work for a few days, weeks and even months.
Tonight I got a text from my first ex wife asking if my son was calling her tonight. To me that's an innocent text with nothing to it but my current gf objects to this. She believes she texts me when she's bored or has no company and says that I should tell her to go away.
To me the text is harmless and yet as per every text it causes a big argument. Tonight I'm back on the sofa because I've had enough of it. I don't see her problem. She says she texts me constantly but there's been 20 texts since March mostly about my son.
I pointed out that when I was with my second wife she'd text 20 times a day. It put a strain on things so my wife at the time would reply instead and then she'd text her instead.
Yeah my first ex wife is a pain in the arse but it's not how it used to be. It certainly shouldn't be causing the all out war it has tonight. I just think what is the point and finally saying we're done. What do you think?
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Miram26-30, F
馃 No, sort it with her not here. Because at the end of the day you'll be back to her no matter what.
MadchesterMan46-50, M
[@542305,Miram] I just want to know if the situation is ridiculous or not? Right now I don't want to be back with her but the world seems a pretty frightening place when you've got responsibilities on your own.
GJOFJ361-69, M
The fight is caused as much by you being defensive as it is by her not liking the texts .
BTW How old is your son?
MadchesterMan46-50, M
[@11768,GJOFJ3] yeah it does take 2 to tango. I'm fed up of always being told what to do and how I should do it. She thinks she's right about every thing constantly and that gets my back up quite alot. My son is 9
GJOFJ361-69, M
[@509821,MadchesterMan] Sounds like you are no longer in love with her
MadchesterMan46-50, M
[@11768,GJOFJ3] I do love her but we have so many arguments I wonder what is the point. When we're good we're great and when we're bad it's the worst. She expects me to live her way and do things her way but it can't be like that. She's way too harsh with her black and white ways and I'm not like that.
If your first ex wife is the mother of your son... then your girlfriend has to live with the fact that you are, and will continue to talk to her, whether she likes it or not. You have to keep things civil with her for the sake of the child that you share.

Your girlfriend needs to accept that your marriage to your first wife might be over - but she still has the right to whatever you both agreed on as far as contact with the child that you share goes.

As far as your second ex wife goes... I'm not sure that telling your girlfriend just how bad your first wife was with your second wife will make much of a difference - mostly because that's one of those things that you have to see to believe, and your girlfriend doesn't find seeing things from other people's angle the easiest thing to do at the best of times.

You'll know, deep down, when this relationship is over... though, I believe that, in your heart, you surpassed that point while your girlfriend was in hospital. You demonstrated that by the lengths you went to to get out of your relationship at that time. People don't usually go to those lengths for no reason.

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