I Am Concerned

Now, I grew up into an abusive (physically, mentally, verbally) home until I was about to turn 14 and as rescued by my dad and sent to Florida from colorado. It was all at the hands of my mother. I resented her for a year or two until I realized that she is my mother and one of us has to be mature about the situation. So I went to visit for Christmas time last year. She picked me up acting as if nothing happened in the past but when we got to her car I saw a missing mirror and it looked like her car got t-boned. She's always been a heavy drinker but it's gotten worse. My grandfather (her dad, my mom and brother love with him) said it was my fault. My mom falls asleep at the wheel and drives home drunk even more than she use to. She just got her motorcycle license, and I will not be surprised when I get the call that she was in a fatal accident because she was drunk or asleep. I will never have the perfect relationship with her even though all is forgiven. But I don't want her dead. I just don't know what to do anymore.

updown2020 · 61-69, M

Well she is your mother and relationship is what it is. Your mom is responsible for her own action that is fact whether she chooses to accept it or not it really does not matter because the fact is that she is responsible. Do not let anyone play with your head she got drunk she drove that is fact you are not responsible for nothing at all never mind that fact you were miles away and you were miles away because of your mom's actions not yours. You call call your mom and talk to her to facetime or anything and maybe visit but if it gets to the point where you feel uncomfortable going or talking well then put a end to it. It's about you now she had her chance and blew it.

I was abused as a child and was taken away by the court's Years late my parents were coming to visit my sister and niece and the first thing they said to my sister was make sure I was not around. I was prepared to let everything go and see if we could be civil to each other, But no they had other idea's will you know what so be it if that's what they want that's what they get.

You are the victim in this not your mom sorry but your mom is the criminal in this. Do not feel bad because you wanted a better life for yourself. Something told you to get out and you did good for you.

updown2020 · 61-69, M

@AdeenCuffing: You are welcome anytime you want to talk feel free and come talk to me.

updown2020 · 61-69, M

@AdeenCuffing: You were a victim now you are a survivor and now in the drivers sit do not let anyone take that away. Some people are miserable and want other people to be miserable to well let those people keep to themselves.