I Love My Boyfriend and He Loves Me
But I never ever ever thought I could “just” have a boyfriend. Through my youth, my goal was to be married and in a 159% committed relationship and that the ring and marriage would be proof of that commitment !!!!
Here I am, divorced, and happily in a relationship with my boyfriend. Happily NOT married. I feel a certain freedom knowing that we CHOOSE to be together, not because we feel we are stuck, trapped, or fear divorce or judgement by others.
I know this will upset married minded folks, but I just want to say, I prefer being in a relationship. Day by day, for the past ....6 years...we have been choosing evolving as a couple and still loving each other. I hope someday I can say it’s been 25 years.... but that is....dependent on how well respected we treat one another. I feel as if marriage lowers people’s expectations of one another. Being single keeps it... challenging? I can’t be the only person who feels this way. If I hadn’t been so unhappy and already been in an unhappy 10 year marriage, resulting in divorce, I would not be okay with where I am at. I think I would still have my mind set on this dreamy idea of marriage and perfect relationship that... is impossible to be perfect. Okay this is self therapy. I’m not seeking opinions from unmarried people with idealistic views. I was one of them. To you— I’ve got it all wrong and nothing I could ever say would be alright with you. I know, I was there once. And I wish you perfect marriage I never had. But I am happily... unmarried.
Here I am, divorced, and happily in a relationship with my boyfriend. Happily NOT married. I feel a certain freedom knowing that we CHOOSE to be together, not because we feel we are stuck, trapped, or fear divorce or judgement by others.
I know this will upset married minded folks, but I just want to say, I prefer being in a relationship. Day by day, for the past ....6 years...we have been choosing evolving as a couple and still loving each other. I hope someday I can say it’s been 25 years.... but that is....dependent on how well respected we treat one another. I feel as if marriage lowers people’s expectations of one another. Being single keeps it... challenging? I can’t be the only person who feels this way. If I hadn’t been so unhappy and already been in an unhappy 10 year marriage, resulting in divorce, I would not be okay with where I am at. I think I would still have my mind set on this dreamy idea of marriage and perfect relationship that... is impossible to be perfect. Okay this is self therapy. I’m not seeking opinions from unmarried people with idealistic views. I was one of them. To you— I’ve got it all wrong and nothing I could ever say would be alright with you. I know, I was there once. And I wish you perfect marriage I never had. But I am happily... unmarried.
