We live in a world where emotions are numbed down to what can be called apathy. You can’t be sensitive. You can’t feel to much, for empathy, and putting yourself in the shoes of another is to “excuse” them and we are taught that if we remove ourselves from the captivity of their “trap” of getting our attention, then maybe we can get them to function as we want. Function, key word. That’s why everyone is a grand actor or actress. We hide our emotions. And we’ve become masters at it, professionals. We criticize and mock others behind their back, instead of addressing things through sincere communication because we fear anger that could rid us of our jobs and relationships. We literally have little to talk about if we don’t complain or speak negative of others or things we don’t like. We can talk business and money, that’s a big topic right? The network marketings, the way to draw customers, the sale. When you notice someone who is quiet, please, please... realize maybe that person doesn’t want to talk shit about anyone, or use people for monetary reasons. Maybe that quiet person is actually a kind, empathetic person who looks at a trouble-maker as someone who deals with emotions they don’t know how to handle. Not because they have a “problem”. But because they do something that is seldom found in our world; they feel. We chose nothing in the first place, not our existence, not our body, not our mind, not our instincts, not this world, its people, our families, the rules that existed prior to us being born into this... nothing. It is common sense to feel, because contrary to your beliefs, contrary to the seemingly apathetic mask you try to put out there, YOU too feel, and you know it. We have desire and we have fear. People desire different things, and fear different things. You might be a “coward” to something someone else is brave towards, and you might be brave to something someone else is a “coward” towards. People are “lazy” to some things, yet active on others YOU would be “lazy” for, so please these negative labels of comparing are irrelevant. If I could put quotation marks on all negative labels except on the one where a person becomes dangerous, I would, because all negative labels translate to is “you are not doing what I want, change it to what I do want.” We have been taught to survive. We have been taught to fear painful consequences, to fear death. Yet people quickly turn the page and move on from those currently here no more. Let’s change our minds, you grew up and you see the world for what it is? Don’t put your chin down. No longer is the value of YOUR life dependent on THEIR predicament of you. Because YOU... You no longer are defined by words aimed to make you pleasing for THEM. Now you are living to get to know yourself better. To know your own mind. Now YOU get to treat yourself with the kindness, patience, and understanding others haven’t shown you. Now it is you who creates art with every breath and step you take, by being you, the best you can, I know we still have to compromise, but now not as much anymore. They won’t tell you this anywhere. That you are only wanted when convenient, but it is reality. We are the same, I wouldn’t stay with someone that could harm me and deter me from living. It’s not something to make you feel insignificant, no, it is something to make you feel stronger than before. You are not living for cliches, or false dichotomies. Pleasing, productive, and harmless ✅, or labeled with random and invented derrogatory words from A to Z. Know that, digest that, and be not affected by it once you know you are causing no harm and actually giving your best efforts. Cry? There is nothing wrong with crying. Yet here, in this world, you will be laughed at, and mocked for doing so. For being a cry-baby, for being weak. Let’s turn the tables. Maybe the one unafraid to shed a tear is the brave one, who isn’t afraid to hide behind a mask. While everyone else keeps their masks on, only to take them off at home when no one is looking.
I just read what I wrote, and as always I find it ironic, because the advice I give YOU is advice that I must apply to MYSELF.
I am apathetic to many situations myself, I am. I might feel and think myself empathetic to some things but if I’m honest at being displeased, I run, displeased in a matter I can no longer stand.
I guess I can be as apathetic as those I criticize. I talk about not criticizing, and yet my piece is a criticism, a judgement, a viewpoint I expose as well.
It is almost obsolete, except that I feel that in exposing this thought process I hope others find that they are not alone, or confined by a word, a word for not being found functional... to me.
