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I Was Caned By My Dad

Hard to believe now, but its true. This was 1959 and it was a different universe. I was 17, and allowed to borrow my dad's car (stupid dad). Myself and my best friend were going to meet two girls at a Teacher Training College a few miles away. My friend had just got his licence as well, and I let him drive the last mile or so. The college had an impressive drive way. He swung the car in to impress the girls and hit one of the stone gateposts, crumpling the off-side mudguard and headlight expensively.

My choice was to tell dad the truth or lie that a dog had run in front of me and to avoid it I hit an expensive gatepost. No choice really. I lied.

I expected a caning and that's what I got the same evening when I limped the car home. If anything, the dog excuse increased the penalty.

(My father was a Secondary Modern Headmaster, highly experienced in caning boys bottoms, and brought all his skill to bear on my bare bottom. His displeasure was penetrating.)

A few weeks later he took me to his study at home and asked me to tell him honestly how the car had been damaged. I repeated my dog story.

Big Mistake.

Somehow through his educational contacts, the true story had got back to him.

There was very little discussion, apart from the classic parental "I am very disappointed that a son of mine etc..." He took the cane from the cupboard, and despite the fact that I must have been getting near 18, it never occurred to me for a moment to argue with him and I obediently dropped my trousers and underpants, bent over the desk and took a double caning for lying to him twice. That was my last, and very definitely worst caning.
Caned4doz · 61-69, M
Hi. Please indulge me for going a little off topic here. I was attracted by your reason for being caned by your dad because I did very much the same thing at the same age. The difference with me was that I 'borrowed' dad's car without his permission while he and mum were out for the afternoon. I scratched the car badly on the gate post when backing out from a mate's place.

I had grand intentions of being upfront with dad when he came home, but when the moment came I chickened out and said nothing. He didn't discover the damage until the next day when we went to Sunday Mass. I denied all knowledge and dad assumed someone must have scratched the car in the church carpark. Two more times I denied any knowledge when asked over the course of a week and I was starting to feel increasingly guilty about my lies, but I had dug the hole deep.

Dad took the car to get petrol and apparently met my mate's father who asked if dad had had the car fixed yet. The truth was out! Dad came home and he was absolutely livid with me. After a long lecture and me finally admitting what had really happened, dad told me to get out of his sight, that he would deal with me later. I knew what that meant and, as much as I was terrified, a small part of me was relieved, I felt as if a weight had been lifted from me.

In my case I wasn't caned, I only got the cane at school, but dad had a leather strap for my punishments and I got a solid dose of with it later that day. Dad told me that what disappointed him more than anything was that I had repeatedly lied rather than be honest. I had been raised to be better than that and he expected me to be better. Like you, even though I was rising 18yo, it never crossed my mind to defy my father. I bared my bottom when instructed and bent over. That was also my last punishment from dad.

For anyone that wants to make a derogatory comment, let me assure you this is a factual account and nothing sexual or indecent about it. Times were very different and corporal punishment in the home and schools was normal, expected and accepted.
MaryDreamilton · 46-50, F
@smacked30D I'm happy to take them down myself. Lol :)
Caned4doz · 61-69, M
@MaryDreamilton Haha, you don't get it that easy. You need the embarrassment and humiliation of having them ceremoniously removed for you.
MaryDreamilton · 46-50, F
@Caned4doz I know what you mean, but I love a stern, authoritarian, fatherly man telling me to take them down ready for a good spanking.
Derrick70 · 56-60, M
I was caned by my Dad also. Well deserved because I didn't follow rules and didn't listen.
jackcros · 70-79, M
@barney1 if only the line waiting to be caned, lol.
Derrick70 · 56-60, M
@jackcros 👍 Agree
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Your father sounds like a wonderful man and a conscientious parent.

More than six for that perfidy?
@HowardP Given the circumstances I suspect the damage wasn't covered by insurance so I can well understand his extraction of a 'pound of flesh' from your buttocks. I wonder how many quid each stroke represented.
Caned4doz · 61-69, M
@HowardP I can relate to what you say in so many ways. That sense of guilt, even decades later is not unknown to me either.
HowardP · 80-89, M
@JessBalance The 'pound of flesh' is a perfect way to explain the severity of my father's punishment. His POUNDING of flesh was unforgettable, There was some insurance issue - time has eliminated much of the memory, but I think it was to do with him having technically submitted a incorrect insurance report.
HowardP · 80-89, M
I really don't understand your comment, as the group name is I WAS CANED BY MY DAD, which is precisely what I related. I also explained clearly why he caned me.

In the name of all that is holy, what else could I have done.

And believe me there was nothing - nothing REMOTELY sexual about the canings, then, or now in my reminiscences.
jackcros · 70-79, M
In 1966 when I was 17 I gave dad’s car a nasty scrape on a gate post. He didn’t cane me; he used a heavy belt.
jackcros · 70-79, M
@HowardP very canny
HowardP · 80-89, M
I don't know if it was the shame and pain of those two canings, or the constant fear he might, through the mysterious investigative skills all parents have, of being found out again, but I can honestly say I have never ever put the slightest ding or scratch on a car I was driving ever since. The power of corporal punishment! @jackcros
jackcros · 70-79, M
@HowardP it did focus one’s attention on the task in hand
barney1 · M
i have to say it seems a fair punishment.i myself felt my dad strap when i was grown up (to a point) i knew his house rules and if i disobeyed them it was my own fault i was bending over the kitchen table
HowardP · 80-89, M
Thank you for your comment. Your attitude was very similar to mine at the time, and I cannot recall a single punishment from my father that I did not "deserve" under the rules of the house. Indeed, those two final canings came almost as a relief. Especially the first one, where -given my stupidity - I thought I was lucky to get away with just a caning. Knowing the rules, knowing the consequences, and as long as parents are fair, it makes the punishment much more bearable. @barney1
barney1 · M
@HowardP different attitudes back then, what age was the cane used on your wife till,
HowardP · 80-89, M
Quite so: the change in attitudes over my lifetime has been revolutionary rather than evolutionary. I do understand if more recent generations doubt the veracity of those of us who were children and teens in the 50s and 60s. In my wife's case, from what I recall, she chose to go to her home town university, and lived at home on the 'our house, our rules' principle. But her parents were reasonable (for the time) and eased the rules considerably. But I know there was one caning at 18/19, when she was dropped off at home very drunk and rather sick.
Jonathanzee · 51-55, M
The cane is one of the most serious implement a boy can get .Double the caning is worse
smacked30D · 70-79, M
@Sharon I got the slipper across my father's knee when I damaged his bumper the first time I drove his car at 17 !
Sharon · F
@smacked30D I had to bend over a chair to have the slipper.
smacked30D · 70-79, M
@Sharon How many times did you have to bend over that chair, Sharon ?
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I like reading old stories. It’s like watching an old movie, but the fact that you only focused on the “caning” part which I believe is sexual ruined it for me.
HowardP · 80-89, M
VERY true - as both my wife and sisters can confirm.@Sharon
skimpyboy · 56-60, M
you certainly paid for telling him porkies , did your friend not get any punishment ?
HowardP · 80-89, M
He got off scott-free. But he never showed his face in our house again. However we maintained our friendship, and the fact that his stupidly had caused me such pain made him, in some ways, a more devoted friend. I was best man at his FIRST wedding ( yes, he was as bad a husband as he was as a bad driver!)

As a complete and total aside, at 14 we had both been caned together at school for something almost equally stupid. @skimpyboy
kukus1 · 36-40, M
Double caning...how many strokes you got totally?

 
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