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Why do people ‘accuse’ me of being on a diet?

It doesn’t really matter, but I just wonder why whenever people see me eating salad for lunch multiple days they ask me if I’m on a diet in an accusatory sort of tone? The fact that I eat salad because I like it is beside the point. So what if I was on a diet? Why is that anyone’s busy? Is there a rule book stating that only people over a certain weight are allowed to decide to eat healthier? Should I choose something greasier as not to offend anyone? Same sort of thing with exercising. If I do want to lose weight that’s my right and prerogative. I don’t see why it should offend anyone or cause judgment.

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SumKindaMunster · 51-55, M

So you are probably thin and healthy looking....

Some people are so insecure about their body and look, they project their frustrations, anxiety and anger on others who don't seem to have similar issues. They probably feel guilt and shame for their own poor eating choices when they see you eating healthy and enjoying it. They can't internalize these feelings so they lash out at you as a way to sooth themselves and feel better.

Learn to deflect. Say "Oh thank you, I am just enjoying my salad here..." then turn away and ignore them.