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escapemyreality · 31-35, F
@Rachel335 We have only been dating for three months and I don't vent very much because I always feel I'm annoying people. This was the first time I vented out oud to him I think, the other few times it was by text, but yeah now that I think about it he usually doesn't give me much of a reply...
@escapemyreality Oh wow. I mean I don't know him and the whole situation or anything, so I don't want to sound like I'm judging... but if I was in a relationship I would expect the other person to be understanding/supportive towards something like that. I'm sure he's a great guy, but yeah lol
escapemyreality · 31-35, F
@Rachel335 he keeps telling that I can talk and vent to him. I don't know if maybe his intentions are good but he just doesn't have at all a clue at how to comfort a girl... lol
Coralmist · 41-45, F
I really think twice about ppl that just stick up for the person being abusive or rude. My dad has defended my moms AWFUL words that are destructive snd I try ti not even TALK to him now...I find it ignorant to always make an excuse of why they act childish or hateful. .. You dont deserve it and Im FINALLY seeing i dont either. ..Id be frank with him: when im hurt by someone or sad , you finding reasons why they did it seems low or insensitive. ..I stand by you when u are down ..not defending the other...could u try it as well? " I wish u luck
escapemyreality · 31-35, F
@Coralmist Thank you. After talking with my bf my reaction was actually to think about leaving him alone and not bothering him. Even thought I felt hurt I also started feeling a bit guilty that I might have ruined his day with my upsetting talk. But I'm starting to realize that's not right...
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@escapemyreality If you are not doing it 'every' day, and its just venting once in a while about someone (your grandmother) who obviously is not treating you that kindly, I'd say it should not be 'bothering' him. If its just for a few mins that you are talking about it and not like a whole day (I'm sure thats not the case) , then he should support your feelings, they are NOT irrational when someone greets/treats you like that. Just see if he does it with other things you occasionally vent about, and if so, maybe a break is a good idea? I know that I validate others feelings a lot and when they don't to me I feel quite low and I usually retreat from them.