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I Have Something I Need to Say

I've told others this, and now I need to remind myself of this as well.

Your heart is a precious thing, not to be wasted on someone who treats it like a plaything, but only to be shared with someone who will treasure it always and give you all of theirs in return.

Please, stop worrying about whether or not you're good enough for someone who has managed to steal your heart, and start worrying about whether or not that person is good enough for you. Stop wondering what it is that you have to do to make yourself worthy of their love, their attention, and their respect. You ARE good enough. You ARE worthy.

It's so easy for me to tell other people this. Now I need to be able to hear this and believe it myself.

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liloleme123 · 51-55, M

Can we have an update how's it working out for you

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

@liloleme123 Well, I have my good days and my not so good days. Sometimes I feel confident and worthy of love, but sometimes I still feel sad because someone apparently decided that I didn't have any value and threw me away like garbage. When I see this person being rude to others, or just acting like an idiot, it's relatively easy for me to realize that it's his loss and he is in no position to judge me as worthless. But then sometimes I see him being nice to others, and then I feel the pain of rejection again. But then I have to remember that he was very sweet to me at one time too.

I do feel much better than I did a year ago, but sometimes I wonder if I'm making any real progress or not. It's not easy. I think sometimes the mind knows something for a long time before the heart really gets it. It also doesn't help that I made a couple of mistakes myself, and I sometimes find myself wondering if things might have worked out differently if I hadn't made those mistakes. But I don't really think so. I only made those mistakes because I had already been hurt.

I also feel as though by not doing anything about it, by just letting him carry on and do the same thing to others that he did to me, I'm telling him that it's okay, that I agree with him that I really don't matter and all that really matters is that he's still having fun. 😒 But what can I do?

Sorry for the long answer, but that's kind of where I am with this right now.

liloleme123 · 51-55, M

@TeresaRudolph71 so mistakes as in cheating .. you went with your feelings I guess. I suppose if it didn't work out with that one then you should move on and concentrate on yourself and let others make their mistakes with him ..

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

@liloleme123 No, not cheating. After he discarded me, I made the mistake of revealing something that he had told me in confidence, in a moment of spite. But I soon regretted it, and deleted my comments and took back what I had said.

But you're right, others will have to make their mistakes with him too. It's bound to happen, he's so good at fooling people and is continuing to fool people, including some very nice people. I hate to see them get hurt, but I can't really do anything about it, because they will believe him, until they get hurt the same way I did. It's like watching a terrible accident happen in slow motion and not being able to do anything to stop it. Only it's no accident, on his part.

But yes, I do need to concentrate more on myself right now.

liloleme123 · 51-55, M

Well a new year, a new start..

Here's to a great 2019 🍻

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

Thank you @liloleme123. You also. 🍻

blendednotshaken · 51-55, M

@TeresaRudolph71 just found that wrting. You deserve so much more, follow your heart.

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

@blendednotshaken Thank you, I appreciate that. And I will. :)