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I Am a Loner

Proud And Happy To Be A Loner... I used to feel bad for not being able to open up to strangers and attempting to befriend my classmates in the hopes of being invited to a party, to their house, or to an event. Some time that changed. I’m content with being by myself. There are many things I can do without friends such as reading a book, working out, writing, learning something new, going out by myself, dancing, singing, watching a movie. I accept that I’m independent and a self-leader. The need to belong has shifted from wanting to join others in social activities to knowing that my experiences, behavior, thoughts, beliefs, opinions, and values are somewhere in the world similar to other’s. My dissimilarities compared to society is my uniqueness. I’m proud of staying true to my individuality. I’m proud of being a loner. The solitude is calming. The silent union with a group of people is also desired and sometimes achieved. Social events or social activities is not unwanted. In fact, I embrace the company of others when given.
blewaway6
I loved this story and your outlook is very mature. I am twice your age and can't find any such peace of mind about who I am. Being on my own is a joy and a relief - I love to mull over thoughts, peel back the la<x>yers to try to find out why. However, this is strongly laced with a sense of guilt - I should be more, sociable, more talkative, more interested in people. This leads to a constant watching of myself in social situations which is exhausting. Work awaits me in a couple of hours and I feel an inward groan as I share an office with someone I don't get on with very well (I'm too quiet apparently). Is there something wrong with me?

I thought your comments about self-leadership and union with a silent group of people with similar views, very insightful. I shall go to work today and feel a little less odd! THANKS
flydance
Being loner is by choice. And people who have the conception that loners are socially in-adept are highly misinformed. Being alone makes us value things which are not superficial, and it's a guilty fact that I'm proud of that 'loners are more knowledgeable' *grins*

 
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