I Hate Parents Who Don't Look After Their Own Kids
I know I shouldn’t judge people on how to raise a kid, but I see so many neglected kids all the time and I just don’t get it. I’ve had a lot of people even tell me to my face that they don’t even like kids, even though they’re parents themselves.
I’m not saying I’d be a perfect parent if I was one, and I realize there is a certain point in a child’s life where you have to gradually give them more independence to grow on their own and gain confidence to learn how to do things themselves. I know I don’t have all the answers and there isn’t a guideline book to being a parent , but what I’m getting at is I hate seeing parents ignoring their kids more than what’s necessary. Physical abuse is one thing, but ignoring them almost completely because you don’t want to be responsible for them? Ignoring them when they’re sad, ignoring them when they’re scared, ignoring them when they’re lonely and clearly just want affection. Never even actually wanting to get to know their kids. Never even really look for them when they’re not in eyesight. They think you just have to feed and clothe a kid, and that’s all it takes to raise a human being.
I had parents that were paranoid about kids being accidentally injured or drowning or getting hit by a car. My dad literally used to give us pep talks as kids about how parking lots are not playgrounds and how you never run. My mum was cautious too, and always held our hands when potential danger was close at hand, but my father’s very strong and firm persistence has really impacted me. Even as adults he warns us of things, as if we are still 5. Because of what my father did, it just seems so unusual to me for anyone not to be concerned about their kids.
I’m not saying I’d be a perfect parent if I was one, and I realize there is a certain point in a child’s life where you have to gradually give them more independence to grow on their own and gain confidence to learn how to do things themselves. I know I don’t have all the answers and there isn’t a guideline book to being a parent , but what I’m getting at is I hate seeing parents ignoring their kids more than what’s necessary. Physical abuse is one thing, but ignoring them almost completely because you don’t want to be responsible for them? Ignoring them when they’re sad, ignoring them when they’re scared, ignoring them when they’re lonely and clearly just want affection. Never even actually wanting to get to know their kids. Never even really look for them when they’re not in eyesight. They think you just have to feed and clothe a kid, and that’s all it takes to raise a human being.
I had parents that were paranoid about kids being accidentally injured or drowning or getting hit by a car. My dad literally used to give us pep talks as kids about how parking lots are not playgrounds and how you never run. My mum was cautious too, and always held our hands when potential danger was close at hand, but my father’s very strong and firm persistence has really impacted me. Even as adults he warns us of things, as if we are still 5. Because of what my father did, it just seems so unusual to me for anyone not to be concerned about their kids.
26-30, F
