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I Hate Conflict

Mutual respect is the key to any successful relationship. I feel that conflicts can only increase when both partners refuse to listen to the other person and pride takes over and clouds their judgement.

I don't mind to give my man the right to have "the last word" if he would listen and consider my opinion seriously. In the end, it's not about being right, it's about what is best for both of us.

How do you guys resolve conflicts in relationship? Do you believe that one partner should have the last word?
SW-User
He does something silly
I cry
I cool down
I give my opinion
he looks like WHAT NOW!
like a cornered animal
I know he cannot find the right words
he is a man of few words
I say you disappointed me then
I look at him
waiting waiting ...nah nothing
I say let's move on
he smile and hug me
I get over it ...
and it never was an issue for him

not a good example of a healthy relationship lol
Madeleine · 41-45, F
@SW-User He sounds wise to me.
SW-User
Madeleine also a good man
MellyMel22 · F
[i][c=#BF0080]I believe both should be able to express how they feel and both should put themselves in each other's position to understand why they feel the way they do. Who has the last word isn't important, what is important is that they both realize why whatever it is happened and that they prevent it from happening again. [/c][/i]
Madeleine · 41-45, F
@MellyMel22 This sounds ideal, but sadly unrealistic.
MellyMel22 · F
@Madeleine [i][c=#BF0080]All it takes are two people who can communicate well and are willing to do whatever it takes to make sure each other is understood and worth it 🙂

But it's not very common. [/c][/i]
SW-User
No, I don't think one partner having a last word is a good idea for most people .. especially if it is just to end the discussion because they don't want to deal with it. One person driving things that way usually leads to resentment, loss of self for the other. Rather unacceptable way to live in what is supposed to be a mutually beneficial arrangement.
Madeleine · 41-45, F
@SW-User I agree, but how should they solve the issue?
SW-User
@Madeleine .. Guess it depends on the nature of it and who it's an issue for .. but to me it should be discussed and some level of resolution agreed to .. and the agreement upheld in actions after. For instance - I looked at options and started working from home after my wife raised concerns about impact of my commute on our home life. In an ideal world, both partners would have some give and take around things to try and find mutually satisfactory outcomes as much as possible.
elVato · 46-50, M
She always thinks she's right.
And I don't care much anymore.
😕
Madeleine · 41-45, F
@elVato Oh.
When either party is concerned with getting the last word in, and gets away from the issue being constructively discussed. There is truly no real discussion with regard to the matter at hand. It simply becomes a war of attrition with both sides being only concerned with what they as individuals are saying.
Madeleine · 41-45, F
@allsfinebime2 Yes, exactly. They must focus on looking at the same direction and where they are both heading to together.
@Madeleine ☺☮
SailorMarz · F
*tries to remember how my arguments went**
SW-User
Communication is certainly key, but having willing and active participants (I find) is the difficulty. I don't feel there should be a last word until there's some sort of agreement.
Madeleine · 41-45, F
@SW-User What if both insist in their opinions?
SW-User
@Madeleine Then there needs to be some give and take. I think the key is, does the one who's taking value what the other is giving? At some point all the giving has to add up to something of value, otherwise the person giving will feel as though they have no voice and are under appreciated.
SW-User
Oh I’ve learned over the years that women are right when there right and also right when there wrong
My solution 🍷🤐. Lol

 
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