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I Think That Thinking Hurts Sometimes

I’ve become so angry & only wish to be left alone, I hate myself for never being good enough. It just keeps replying in my head, his texts between other women & him telling me “ it doesn’t matter, it’s only texting “ somebody should just tell me to stfu now!!! Smh 🤦‍♀️

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Abstraction · 61-69, M

Thinking hurts because your patterns of thought are not good. Let me give you some thoughts:
1. There is nothing wrong with you. You are inherently loveable and deserving of respect - flaws and all that's 100% true.
2. Are his texts with other women flirting, or are you just being insecure? If it isn't clear, then ask him to help you feel assured by allowing you to read them - there should be no need for him to hide his phone from you, because it's just texts.
3. If they are flirting, then there's nothing wrong with you. THere's something missing in him.
4. If he's flirting, you need to put a value on yourself - it will only get worse, and you shouldn't have to put up with it. Respect yourself, even if you lose him. Self respect puts a value on yourself that others have to rise to. So... no flirting with other women or it's over. (But... ffs don't do this if it's all in your head!!!!!)

Jax316 · F

@Abstraction He was a flirty whore with women, asking them out. Saying things, like
“ I’m naked, come play with me.” Asking his lady friend who happens to live in the same town as me to go see him & asking permission to slap her pregnant ass! Ugh!! I hate it, and hate what he wrote to her. He wasn’t a good guy & I should have just listened to his brother & not to bother with him. Smh!! He’s 45 yrs old an he acts like this towards women when he’s drunk and on text. He never cared about me or my feelings. So humiliated & yes, he let me go through his texts and had the nerve to tell me not to get mad at them, him giving me his phone was his only way for him to get rid of me because he couldn’t be man enough to just dump me. Smh!!

Abstraction · 61-69, M

@Jax316 I'm sorry. You're worth so much more than that.

Jax316 · F

Wish that were true. But, I’m sure better days are yet to come. There’s always a rainbow after the rain, eh?