I Just Need To Rant, Scream, And Curse Once In A While
Torn.
So last week I posted a question here about what would you do if your "best-friend" decides to hook you up with boyfriend's best-friend. A lot of helpful people came by to drop their opinions and it boosted me to say the truth to her. Yesterday I told her that I didn't want to do anything with the guy she wants to hook me up with, let's name him D and my friend as T and the boy-friend as W.
This is going to be long but I'll just tell you what exactly happened.
W are obviously friends with D and they have this sort of 'group' of boys. All of the boys except D didn't have any girl-friends and the caring (sarcasm yes) T suggested that they should introduce D to me because we had a lot in common. At first I thought she wanted to introduce him as a friend but the more detailed we talked the more she made it clear that she wanted me to be a couple with him. I rejected that couple part and said that I didn't want to establish any relationships with him or anyone but then she starts complaining to her boy-friend and the boy-friend personally texted me - literally begging me to accept D as a boy-friend.
(Now that's really rude, honestly)
and when I still said "NO' the boy-friend starts GUILT-TRIPPING me with stories about D really liking me
(Weird though, we never even MET! and W and T exaggerated stories of me to W like I'm cute, or whatever and even sent photos of me to him... now you may start saying so? it's just a photo. Well I for one don't even post my OWN photo on my social accounts. So I consider this a breach of privacy and to make matters worst.. I don't even know how HE looks like)
he even posted their convos about me. Where D was "idolizing" me.. I am not flattered. I find it weird, creepy because ... he is still a stranger!
Then when I ignored the boy-friend my own best-friend starts guilt-tripping me. Saying stuff such as:
"Well, I thought we were friends?"
"I would be really happy if you could accept him..."
"Please.. do it for me?"
because I am such a kind soul (sarcasm sarcasm sarcasm) I accepted the 'offer' but politely told my best-friend that I would only treat him as a FRIEND.
The dude (D) starts texting me. He was trying too hard to impress me by pretending to be part of a controversial group ... and the scariest part was that this group existed in my country (I've seen it on a few websites...) and I was honestly terrified...
I told him bluntly that I AM NOT COMFORTABLE with those sort of jokes yet he still DOES IT. I like humour yes, but that one was WAY OVER THE LINE.
Continuation.
I felt like I was forced to entertain him and chat with him just so my best-friend could be satisified with her 'match-making' skills (sarcasm sarcasm) and EVERYDAY she texts me asking for updates on me and him. I told her that it was fine but I didn't mention that I felt uncomfortable and wanted to stop ....
Then a few days ago, I told him (D) the truth. I didn't want any relationships. In-fact I find it annoying and that we should be friends. Ever since I told him that, he texts less frequently, removes his profile picture and because of this T texts me asking why he became like that
Dude. How the hell am I supposed to know that? We just known each other for two weeks and you EXPECT me to ask everything that is going on in HIS LIFE? If this was a Sims game then my relationship with D would be a [10/100] and with T it was [100/100 -20 = 80/100]. Though the thing that bugs me most is that she only texted to ask about him and not her BEST-FRIEND that she has known for 10 years.
Yesterday I told her that I told him about not wanting a relationship and boy was she mad. Why the hell does she need to be so mad though? She doesn't even know D and she doesn't need to control my life. Somehow I hated talking about D with her so I made her promise that we wouldn't talk about it again yet she refuses saying she needed 'updates' all the time. (roll eyes)
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I DONT WANT TO BE HIS GIRL-FRIEND. CAN'T YOU UNDERSTAND? (I texted)
Why are you like this? He hasn't even been in a relationship and he likes you very much. Yet you are treating him like crap, this would traumatize him! I can't believe you are acting like this. Just give him a chance.
Dude no. I feel forced... you don't dictate my life ... okay? I'm fine being on my own. Just live your life and if it bugs you that much then I'll continue texting him as a friend..
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Then my friend proceeds to text me with: Oh. Ok. I get it. LOL. I won't talk about him ever again. Then she blocks me...
Honestly I feel really proud and satisfied of myself and though I feel worried about our friendship, I feel glad at the same time. Now she knows not to force her 'ideals' on me just so her boy-friend can be impressed or whatever.
So last week I posted a question here about what would you do if your "best-friend" decides to hook you up with boyfriend's best-friend. A lot of helpful people came by to drop their opinions and it boosted me to say the truth to her. Yesterday I told her that I didn't want to do anything with the guy she wants to hook me up with, let's name him D and my friend as T and the boy-friend as W.
This is going to be long but I'll just tell you what exactly happened.
W are obviously friends with D and they have this sort of 'group' of boys. All of the boys except D didn't have any girl-friends and the caring (sarcasm yes) T suggested that they should introduce D to me because we had a lot in common. At first I thought she wanted to introduce him as a friend but the more detailed we talked the more she made it clear that she wanted me to be a couple with him. I rejected that couple part and said that I didn't want to establish any relationships with him or anyone but then she starts complaining to her boy-friend and the boy-friend personally texted me - literally begging me to accept D as a boy-friend.
(Now that's really rude, honestly)
and when I still said "NO' the boy-friend starts GUILT-TRIPPING me with stories about D really liking me
(Weird though, we never even MET! and W and T exaggerated stories of me to W like I'm cute, or whatever and even sent photos of me to him... now you may start saying so? it's just a photo. Well I for one don't even post my OWN photo on my social accounts. So I consider this a breach of privacy and to make matters worst.. I don't even know how HE looks like)
he even posted their convos about me. Where D was "idolizing" me.. I am not flattered. I find it weird, creepy because ... he is still a stranger!
Then when I ignored the boy-friend my own best-friend starts guilt-tripping me. Saying stuff such as:
"Well, I thought we were friends?"
"I would be really happy if you could accept him..."
"Please.. do it for me?"
because I am such a kind soul (sarcasm sarcasm sarcasm) I accepted the 'offer' but politely told my best-friend that I would only treat him as a FRIEND.
The dude (D) starts texting me. He was trying too hard to impress me by pretending to be part of a controversial group ... and the scariest part was that this group existed in my country (I've seen it on a few websites...) and I was honestly terrified...
I told him bluntly that I AM NOT COMFORTABLE with those sort of jokes yet he still DOES IT. I like humour yes, but that one was WAY OVER THE LINE.
Continuation.
I felt like I was forced to entertain him and chat with him just so my best-friend could be satisified with her 'match-making' skills (sarcasm sarcasm) and EVERYDAY she texts me asking for updates on me and him. I told her that it was fine but I didn't mention that I felt uncomfortable and wanted to stop ....
Then a few days ago, I told him (D) the truth. I didn't want any relationships. In-fact I find it annoying and that we should be friends. Ever since I told him that, he texts less frequently, removes his profile picture and because of this T texts me asking why he became like that
Dude. How the hell am I supposed to know that? We just known each other for two weeks and you EXPECT me to ask everything that is going on in HIS LIFE? If this was a Sims game then my relationship with D would be a [10/100] and with T it was [100/100 -20 = 80/100]. Though the thing that bugs me most is that she only texted to ask about him and not her BEST-FRIEND that she has known for 10 years.
Yesterday I told her that I told him about not wanting a relationship and boy was she mad. Why the hell does she need to be so mad though? She doesn't even know D and she doesn't need to control my life. Somehow I hated talking about D with her so I made her promise that we wouldn't talk about it again yet she refuses saying she needed 'updates' all the time. (roll eyes)
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I DONT WANT TO BE HIS GIRL-FRIEND. CAN'T YOU UNDERSTAND? (I texted)
Why are you like this? He hasn't even been in a relationship and he likes you very much. Yet you are treating him like crap, this would traumatize him! I can't believe you are acting like this. Just give him a chance.
Dude no. I feel forced... you don't dictate my life ... okay? I'm fine being on my own. Just live your life and if it bugs you that much then I'll continue texting him as a friend..
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Then my friend proceeds to text me with: Oh. Ok. I get it. LOL. I won't talk about him ever again. Then she blocks me...
Honestly I feel really proud and satisfied of myself and though I feel worried about our friendship, I feel glad at the same time. Now she knows not to force her 'ideals' on me just so her boy-friend can be impressed or whatever.
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