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SmileE · 36-40, F
Yes I do. But I am scared.
My best mate gave birth last year and a lot went wrong and it was very traumatic.
She has been getting the help she needs and we do talk about it (a lot). She manages to bring it up on a regular basis regardless of the conversation.
Through all this though I am worried the same thing will happen to me. I know motherhood is a huge sacrifice and that is what makes creating life so beautiful.
How does your body know what to do? Putting all those little cells together in exactly the right places?!
I have such a strong need for a little family of my own, and I know my husband cannot wait to have kids either. I just am worried what the future may hold in order to get there.
My best mate gave birth last year and a lot went wrong and it was very traumatic.
She has been getting the help she needs and we do talk about it (a lot). She manages to bring it up on a regular basis regardless of the conversation.
Through all this though I am worried the same thing will happen to me. I know motherhood is a huge sacrifice and that is what makes creating life so beautiful.
How does your body know what to do? Putting all those little cells together in exactly the right places?!
I have such a strong need for a little family of my own, and I know my husband cannot wait to have kids either. I just am worried what the future may hold in order to get there.
Elizabeth28 · TVIP
@SmileE having a child is the easy part and yes the body of a woman knows how to put the cells together thats the easy part delivery and raising the child thats the hard part but some woman need a C section that can proove problematic but dont stress your body knows how to make a perfect child relaxe life and human body are amazing
Madeleine · 41-45, F
@SmileE This drama is not exclusive to your friend. Every woman would/will have a drama of her own. I have sisters who are mothers now and each of them had her own story. Don't worry, everything turned out to be fine, because having kids is something natural and a gift from God. Just go ahead and start your beautiful family. May God bless you all.
SW-User
your previous q disappeared
may I answer it ?
about changes
There's this one thing I need to change= I need to stop loving being anti social.
When The neighbours saw me in the garden yesterday, they yelled out ..you still live there!?
and said, hope to see more of you this year.
I'm like
oh darnit, they just saw me!
I don't want to change but I guess I need to step up and stop ignoring,
they are good people
I have this believe that you shouldn't see people too often
you start to lose respect for one another lol
back to the q above
I have a kid
just one
may I answer it ?
about changes
There's this one thing I need to change= I need to stop loving being anti social.
When The neighbours saw me in the garden yesterday, they yelled out ..you still live there!?
and said, hope to see more of you this year.
I'm like
oh darnit, they just saw me!
I don't want to change but I guess I need to step up and stop ignoring,
they are good people
I have this believe that you shouldn't see people too often
you start to lose respect for one another lol
back to the q above
I have a kid
just one
Madeleine · 41-45, F
@SW-User Thank you for this wonderful answer. I feel the same way. I don't feel comfortable in socializing a lot. I enjoy my time alone so much. People would criticize me for this and I can't help but to feel this way. I'm not saying I don't enjoy being around people and having a good time, I do. But I can't do it often.
Keraunos · 36-40, M
I was basically indifferent to whether or not I ultimately did my part in making any of those for my whole life until the last couple of years. But after witnessing the abject misery these things have wrought in the lives of nearly everyone I know who has produced them, I can now confidently say I [i]don't[/i] want to experience that for myself.
I have met a small handful of children I liked, but it seems to be about a 10:1 ratio of bad to good ones. The odds I would end up loathing any of the ones I make and resenting their existence seem too high to take the risk at this point. Not to mention the stress of having to plan out their lives in a way that meets simultaneously meets the expectations of society and doesn't fuck them up too badly.
Happily, I've got no fertile wombs clamoring after my sperm at the moment, so it's not something I need to worry about much until further notice.
I have met a small handful of children I liked, but it seems to be about a 10:1 ratio of bad to good ones. The odds I would end up loathing any of the ones I make and resenting their existence seem too high to take the risk at this point. Not to mention the stress of having to plan out their lives in a way that meets simultaneously meets the expectations of society and doesn't fuck them up too badly.
Happily, I've got no fertile wombs clamoring after my sperm at the moment, so it's not something I need to worry about much until further notice.
Sroonaka616 · 31-35, M
Madeleine · 41-45, F
@SW-User May you will have them soon and may they will be good to their mother.
hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M
goagainsttheflow · 26-30, F
Madeleine · 41-45, F
@SW-User Never.
SW-User
I did at one point.
I may have to shelve this dream.
I may have to shelve this dream.
Hopefully one day
SW-User
Not now.
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