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I Am Confused

I just had a job interview and it all went well but when my husband asked about it and I explained the the job responsibilities and what they are looking for and the possibility of working long hours and important meetings that may happen in weekends he wasn't happy about it and said that i should think of the kids and long hours for a mothers won't be appropriate.. that got me so confused.. is it possible that I will be blamed for being away from home if I started a career no matter how many hours I work?... we did speak about me going back to work and he was incoraging it but this time I am not sure.. if its actually the long hours or something else... I shouldn't take what he said serious at this time since its the time of the month where .. you know...I didn't comment on what he said I just paused... and yeah am not offered the job yet but... My question is...its been 4 years since I took a break from work to raise a family but why does it seem complicated? ... would really need some advice now...I am not sure whats expected from me.. what am I expected to do in these coming years...

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firefall · 61-69, M

Society (and apparently your husband, in this case) expects mothers to be fulltime home mothering AND have a career fulltime. I'm not surprised you're confused. The trouble is, there are relatively few jobs above minimum-wage stuff that allow for a woman to develop a career while still being home on the dot all the time. So .. yeah, it's going to be complicated, and you need to decide what gets sacrificed, and what compromises you can manage (e.g. your husband guarenteeing to be home to cover when you have to work late/weekend work, or a mother/mother-in-law promising that assistance, or a babysitter you pay regularly to do something like this, maybe ?)

TheEldersnout · 31-35, F

Yes that is possible. He probably wants you to be happy, but he's also scared that if you work long hours, he would have to spend more time with the kids and not have any free-time for himself, or enough time for his own work.
My advice is that if you get offered a good job, then you take it. After a few years, whoever earns more money gets to work. And sometimes shift roles, so that both you career-people can feel satisfaction in life on turn, until the life kids are ready to move out and start their own lives for themselves.

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my mother quit a job and she is not happy

PerunVeles · 31-35, M

Make a list of priorities

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