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I Am Treated Like a Child

Ugh!...
i will be 21 this year and i have a job and am going to college. I sing in my church choir, and my father still insists more from me to keep me out of trouble and in bed by 10 every night. on week nights my cerfew is 10 and on fridays it is midnight. i live with my aunt, his sister, and he comes over daily. I wish I could choose to do my homework because it is right, not because he says so. I could choose to take the consequences of going out late. i am told i need to eat, what i can and cannot have when i have my own money. They have "intervention," but i know that is just them telling me I'm grounded. 20 years old and they still take the car away, and my phone, which i pay for and continue paying for even if it is taken away for an entire month. It sucks i don't feel like an individual, I feel like an incapable 10 year old. They don't care about my choices or opinions if its different from theirs, it's not worth listening to. Dad tells me its bullshit and continues to bully me. I appreciate their advice when i need it, or their help, but i think they are taking it to a whole new level that is slowly driving me mad. I don't cuss around them, I don't talk about my boyfriend or work because i know they will have something negative to say, but they can say whatever they want. i think they believe i am a little kid that needs to hear these things, but its like verbal abuse and I just am going crazy! I am almost 21. Give me a break for once in my life.
Cleancut
I moved out and iived in a dorm when I was 18 and moved back home a year later. After having all that freedom for a year it was quite an adjustment to be treated like a child when I moved back home. All the old patterns came back instantly. My (single) mother would yell at me, lecture me, snap out orders etc. Just like you I had a curfew..this was probably the biggest thing with my mom she would get SO angry the few times I came home late. I eventually got the "if you live under my roof you live under my rules" lecture. I know most people in this situation hate that message...but it was what I needed to hear. From that point I just accepted the situation and gave up the resentment. It made things a lot less stressful for me. I obeyed all moms rules util I moved out at 22. That's the advice I would give you..accept things the best you can and try to make plans to eventually move out.
LadySarah09 · 31-35, F
thank you. some people think i am a selfish person for having this idea. i just want to be in control of my life. I don't want to grow too fast, i just want to start my life. no, I have a twin sister, but she lives 230 miles, and they treat her worse than they treat me and its very difficult to watch. Thank you for your comments.
RCtimmy
Im 18 but im a little person caus im under 3 feet tall an my stepmom is so protective still yuk
It's been 8 years since you wrote this. How are things going NOW?

 
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