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Keraunos · 36-40, M
Admittedly, my high percentage of worthwhile interactions comes largely from aggressively shunning mundane ones like that. But you're not wrong, I used to actually experiment on my coworkers by mentally timing how long they could listen to me speak before they either interrupted or lost track of my message, and "those people" seem to have an attention span in the 6–10 second range (things were not quite as before the major blow to attention spans dealt by the "mainstreaming" of Internet use in the last not-quite-decade).
Still, people who aren't like that usually recognize one another and congregate together naturally, and people more than a standard deviation or so above the mean IQ who've actually taken time to think about "the world" normally relish opportunities to talk in depth about whatever parts of it they fancy themselves familiar with. My first guesses would be that you've either just been very unlucky with the people you've known, or have not been proactive enough in signalling yourself as one of the interesting people.
Still, people who aren't like that usually recognize one another and congregate together naturally, and people more than a standard deviation or so above the mean IQ who've actually taken time to think about "the world" normally relish opportunities to talk in depth about whatever parts of it they fancy themselves familiar with. My first guesses would be that you've either just been very unlucky with the people you've known, or have not been proactive enough in signalling yourself as one of the interesting people.
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@Keraunos Then I suppose I am not coming across the kind of people who still want to have those conversations and there is a resonating energy between us.