Getting to know him part 1491917474

Alright so a week ago, I finally met up with him in person after like 2 months of talking online....neither of us drive Right now actually so he almost spent nearly 60 bucks on Uber just to come and meet me lmao. (He lives like 30 minutes away)

Besides that, I’d like to say it went really well actually. I mean he was super enthusiastic about it. Very talkative, mirroring body language, letting me talk, talking about future hangouts and even said toward the end “next time- well I hope there’s a next time, we should definitely do this” “next time we can do that” “next time, next time” etc. I on the other hand was super nervous because I’m more antisocial and don’t really meet up with people often...but I did my best and I don’t think it was all that bad. We laughed, laid on the grass and looked up at the stars together (corny I know lol) and just hung out.....and just idk everything seemed to go really well. From what I picked up his intentions were cool ya kno. He said he was having a good time twice and then asked if I was too... Like he seemed like a genuinely sweet nerdy type of guy....It’s just-

Well, it’s been a week and I’m a typical insecure over thinker and all of a sudden- out of the blue?? My mind can’t help but think that he’s not interested, despite the clear indications he seemed to give.... I’m a mess, I know but that’s anxiety for you. I mean we’ve been messaging throughout the week with little texts here or there, he’ll send me a funny video or picture for the most part and I send some back and we joke around but other than that I mean he’s not really a deep texter like that. And when someone is a dry texter I can’t help but feel like they aren’t interested😩 I’m the worst lol

he hasn’t really been texting like that since probably like the first week we started talking to begin with. Which makes sense because we were trying to get to know each other completely digitally. I suppose now that we’ve actually hung out it’s different? Maybe he figures he doesn’t need to put that much effort into texting because if he wants to talk to me, we can just hangout? I dunno. Super dry texter but definitely lively and sweet in person.

I know I sound stupid but come on, I’m only a kid hahahaha maybe he really did just change his mind up quick and is ready to ghost me lol

My trust issues and insecurities are getting the better of me but I’m self aware enough to not take it out on him because I understand that it’s my issue and I need to deal with it on my own.

I guess my question is, what do y’all think about this? lol

Linda77 · 46-50, F

I think this post is incredibly sweet and even though it's a long time for me to think back to I can still relate to those feelings of insecurity.
You have to relax though and go with the flow. When two people try to stay in touch 24/7 one side is eventually going to feel a need to back away a bit so don't push it, if anything make sure you're not the one always sending the new texts, if he's a bit slow replying give him space and let him worry a bit about you going off the boil rather than taking your interest for granted. Chasing each other is much more fun than one side doing all the chasing.

He certainly doesn't sound like he has lost interest in you though :)

Sb356 · 26-30, F

@Linda77 thank you :) I appreciate the words. I do let him text me first and Usually he is the first one to. if he leaves me on read I won’t usually reply as I’m careful not to bother him. When we were first deciding on a day to hang out, he sent me a picture of his entire schedule for the month and I will say that I noticed he works a ton too. I know that a lot of it is in my head and like I said, instead or projecting my insecurities onto him, I try to deal with them by myself :)

FCNantes · 22-25, M

First of all, I think irl indications are much more indicative than online 1s.

Also, I'm a super-sweet guy & I'll give lots of verbal & non-verbal indications if I'm really enjoying the other person's company. When it comes to online though, I'm trying to amuse myself as much as I'm looking to be amused & I usually end up taking the piss a fair bit, if not more, because I'm about 5% as stimulated as talking face-to-face. I also try to conserve interesting news/topics for actual meetings, so I often type something uninteresting instead. I also don't initiate many chats online, because I'm not particularly motivated.
I hope you see the point I'm making.