I Believe Intimacy Is Not Purely Sexual

Intimacy requires high levels of trust which requires people to be vulnerable with each other. Vulnerability requires great transparency of feelings and a willingness to be open with each other.

Intimacy requires that the partners feel understood by each other as well as accepted, admired and loved.

Compared with business or other collegial relationships, intimate relationships are more fragile. They are particularly vulnerable to personal attack or the perception of attack that suggest that the loved one does not accept, understand, admire or love.

Usually, the marriage slowly erodes until one day one of the spouses says "We have "fallen out of love." There is no intimacy left between us and so there is no passion any more. We have grown apart."

It is commonly observed that half of marriages end in divorce. What is not so commonly observed is that of the other half that stays married, many are unhappy. Many of their relationships are flat and boring and they are held together more by inertia and endurance than by satisfying intimate relationships.

So hard and so commonly found these days...