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how do you cope living by yourself with little support network

this is me, i'm well into my 40s now, had a hard past & never managed to find any relationships, i have a personality disorder....and i have basically ended up alone in an apartment by myself, with my only support structure my elderly parents, mainly my mother who lives far away.

i get lonely, isolated, disheartened, discouraged and miserable...i was always quiet, shy, introverted but i did hope to build some relationships, find a nice lady, but that never happened.

anyone out there similar? how do you deal with it?
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Budwick · 70-79, M
I've noticed a lot of people with similar, sad backstories get attention on American Idol.
4meAndyou · F
About 12 years ago, when I got divorced, I joined a local singles support group that advertised in the local newspaper. I met a lot of people when I belonged to that group, and the dues were only $2 a week, to help pay for refreshments and coffee and tea. The group met at a local church, and there were some really good people there. They had activities, and would go on outings together.

I remember, also, scouring a website called Meetup.com, which lists every local hobby group in the United States local towns. You put in your zip code, and it tells you what groups you can join, and tells you the amount you would pay for dues, and when the groups meet.

I met one former lover at the singles support group, who is still a very good friend, and we call each other quite often.

Then I joined a local church, and got a lot of support from them. There are one or two ladies from that church who still call me, and want to get together now and then.

Keep yourself busy. You don't have to sit at home and feel isolated unless that is what you enjoy.
melissa001 · 51-55, F
I'm exactly like you. But I've been dealing with it about 4 years.
I try to keep busy. I read, watch movies, I do some crafting and in the summer I work outside as much as possible. But talking on sites like this helps kill time . I have to rely on myself. It's not easy.
HauntedWitch · 56-60, F
Similar here but not the same. I have health issues which kept me from working for a long time, and that caused a degree of isolation. In counseling, I learned how to provide emotional support for myself, because my family, however well-meaning, won't or can't.

I enjoy my time alone -- more than I thought possible. Sometimes I think it seems a bit scary that I may be alone forever ... but I stay busy with housework, yard work etc. and that gives me less time to worry.

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