I Need to Rant

Respect is not automatic, it is earned. I don't care if you are older than the other person, you can't just treat another person like crap and expect them to take it. I've been treated poorly by someone for a while and today I've just lost any respect I had for them. They don't even own up to the possibility of them being wrong. I've tried to reason with this person and they just do not want to listen and keep thinking they are right. They expect me to listen to them, and tell me to shut up when I try to clear up misunderstandings. They have the traditional mindset "I am older so you must respect me and sit and take any criticism I have" type of view. I have literally been told to shut up by this person when they have wrongly accused me of something and I was trying to clear the air so to speak.

This person is meant to be family, doesn't feel like it anymore. I am in lockdown with this person and I used to spend almost all of my free time in the library to get away from being at home. Home isn't home to me.

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ozgirl512 · 26-30, F

Good luck...I think you're going to need it

MissMoon · 26-30, F

@ozgirl512 Thank you, I think the main comfort to me are my friends and partner who keep in touch with me and definitely platforms like this are needed at times where I can't voice my feelings to my family without getting ignored

SW-User

People like that who play the age card just to win every discussion need to be avoided at all costs... it's annoying though when you're stuck with them like with this lockdown.

MissMoon · 26-30, F

@SW-User Yup, I hate the age card. It isn't fair or justified, especially since age doesn't always define maturity.

SW-User

@MissMoon Some people find it easier just to shut you down by saying they're your elder rather than debating or explaining why you're wrong or actually having to admit that they're wrong sometimes.

JohnTaylor · 22-25, M

Only way to deal with it is to not deal with it. Pick your feet up and walk away. Stop feeding into them. Take the wind out of their sails and they have nothing they can do

MissMoon · 26-30, F

@JohnTaylor yeah, the issue is not being able to move out and the fact I have exams coming up and I've barely even been able to study largely due to them but that's a whole other story 😅 I try to ignore them most of the time but when they get in the way of my future that's when it's too much for me

bijouxbroussard · F

I’m very sorry that you’re experiencing that. Ordinarily I would say that everyone deserves respect and it shouldn’t have to be earned. But one continues to [b]deserve[/b] respect by showing it to others and treating them with civility and consideration—not simply by getting older. 🙁

MissMoon · 26-30, F

@bijouxbroussard Thank you and that is my point exactly! If we just respected everyone who is older than us we would be respecting a lot of nasty people in the world who do not deserve respect.

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updown2020 · 61-69, M

So why are you sticking around if you can get out,

MissMoon · 26-30, F

@updown2020 I am a full time student working part time, I cant afford a flat at the moment and even if I could moving is prohibited right now.

I was planning to work more hours over summer to save up but my workplace is closed and wont reopen until further notice. The only option I have is moving in with my uncle but it's really far from my university so it is an absolute last resort if things get worse.

updown2020 · 61-69, M

@MissMoon Well how about on campus housing ? or a friend

MissMoon · 26-30, F

@updown2020 campus housing is more expensive than a flat 😅 none of my friends live on their own, they all live with family so theres nobody to move in with

SW-User

I know how you feel :( it's very hard to tolerate such people!

MissMoon · 26-30, F

@SW-User I am sorry you can relate to this :(

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