How interesting. What we perceive with our senses release chemicals in our brain based on how we’re feeling. I think we alter those chemicals though. In my opinion, you aren’t happy because a chemical is at a certain level. It is because you are satisfied and pleased that it releases a chemical. All through what we experience, are going through, or the thoughts that we concentrate on constantly. But we do it. We alter our chemicals. The chemicals don’t alter us. We can go deeper. Well what part of “me” is altering the chemicals if I didn’t choose or make my body, brain, instincts, what some call “spirit”, the world, or what it contains? What is actually “me”? I didn’t choose or make any of “me” or what exists prior to me existing. Alright let me rephrase that. What our body and our senses perceive, based on whether we are pleased, affects our chemicals. What we expose ourselves to. I don’t believe that someone is always happy because they have high serotonin or dopamine levels. They are happy at seeing YOU, which increases the level of oxytocin for example, but I personally think it is what these senses of ours are exposed to. I don’t think someone locked up in a room injected with a chemical will ever be genuinely happy.
Someone might have a brain that is simply different. Everyone expects all brains to adapt, get it together, and become mechanically functional to make money as adults. Before we try to play with the chemicals in our brain, has anyone ever stopped to realize some brains just aren’t adaptable? They’re... different. Lets step outside our bubble of micro-managing everything our way, towards survival and avoidance of long-term pain, and really think about the clay that isn’t moldable, the play-doh that won’t budge, that has become hard, will it just be thrown away, or will it still be regarded as worthy in essence?
So love...
I define love as someone pleasing all or most of our senses. Meaning when I tell someone “I love you”, that means I love what I see in them with my eyes (physically attractive to me), I love to hear the words they speak, and likewise with the rest of the senses.
A lot of people have heard me say that “love doesn’t exist”, what I mean is that the idea of “love” being outside of what pleases our senses doesn’t exist.
I always go into the reality of the fact that you have to be pleasing, productive, and harmless to be wanted or “loved” for longer periods of time.
All I said in the first paragraph in regards to love is about the being found pleasing part, but someone could please all of your senses but if you don’t find them productive, in other words if you’re having to pay all the bills, or they become harmful they are out of our lives aren’t they?
We don’t enjoy being in the same room with someone who is not pleasing, productive, and harmless OR making progress towards that.
So the idea of “love” is really about what pleases me, what pleases you. From the pleasure we derive from the other person through our senses oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine increase. It is all in our heads, in our brain. These levels vary depending on the pleasure we derive from outward stimuli.
In conclusion this is how I would define “love”, without the influence of fantasy:
Love- The release of dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin based on the pleasure we derive from the other through our five senses.
This all sounds very scientific, and I'm sure that this has a lot to do with what makes us feel like we're in love with someone. But those feelings are very unreliable. They come and go. True love is a choice, not a feeling. After all those wonderful hormones start to wear off, how do you choose to treat the other person? Do you choose to make them an important part of your life, someone worth your time and energy, someone you care about as much as you care about yourself? That's love. All of this is wonderful, but it's really just physical attraction and affection.
