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I Was Just Thinking

[b]I love letting go.[/b]
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I have been on my summer holidays recently and I've had a lot of time to think. Perhaps too much time truth be told because I've discovered more about myself than I'm comfortable with. That's another story though.
One thing I've learnt about myself recently is that I feel great relief in letting go of people and possessions. It's not necessarily about letting go of things I don't want or people who've done me wrong. It's a desire to give away/sell/ throw away huge amounts of personal possessions and to let contact with people fade away even if they're good people.
I notice it here a lot on SW where I'd meet a really interesting person, have in depth, personal conversations with them and just never speak with one another again. Letting go is accompanied with a sense of relief and joy and that I really don't understand.

Does anyone have an explanation for this?

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Spokeskitties75 · 46-50, M

I once wrote a long piece on EP about, in part, this subject. It was more a life's journey analysis. But I compared it to trains. Getting on and getting off of trains to get to a destination. Meeting the people on those trains... maybe traveling thousands of miles with them. But sometimes you have another train to catch... and another direction to travel. And you are grateful for the company during the journey in life, but they have their train, and you have yours. And there is nothing wrong with that. Because I believe that someday... we all arrive at the same destination. It's just that we must make our own journey.

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Spokeskitties75 · 46-50, M

@Magnolia: well thank you. I have been called the master of analogies before. I do have a tendency to utilize them often to get an idea across.

SW-User

I don't think is is a good analogy at all. A snatched conversation on a train is one thing. But there are some vulnerable people on here who could be very hurt by "finding a friend" and two days later they disappear. I suppose the brutal truth is that the one who soups the contact is selfish and thinks only about what the experience means to them. By the way, I've been that person too, and not proud.

Magnolia · 31-35, F

@PetermatureUK: If someone's spoken to me for a few days, they are not my friend. Friendships are built over a long time. If by friend you mean a support system, it's not my job to emotionally support people here. I've got my own stuff to deal with.
I'm here for entertainment, not friends.

HeyNow · 46-50, M

Possibly to do with the weight of expectations that freidship brings? Being there for then, saying hello every day, etc? Some people just don't like that I suppose.

Magnolia · 31-35, F

I think that's a good observation.

BlueDiver · 36-40, M

In my experience, "easy come" is pretty much always paired with "easy go." Beyond that, maybe you have a fear or aversion to building your life, including possessions and relationships, and so it's a relief when an object or person goes away rather than becoming part of your life. I knew a guy who worked 10 hours a day, and yet he had no savings and his apartment was almost bare because he was so averse to building anything for himself.

Magnolia · 31-35, F

That's interesting. I do have some things I wouldn't get rid of and I am always trying to improve myself but I think you're onto something about the relationship forming.

SW-User

Yes I do. Well said. 10 points for thinking.

Magnolia · 31-35, F

Thank you Enosan

TheWhiteRabbit

I know exactly what you mean. I'm like that.

SW-User

So you just abandon people when you feel like?

Magnolia · 31-35, F

It's not abandonment if they aren't dependent on me. Somebody I met a few days ago definitely shouldn't be dependent.

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