I Think There Is Something Wrong With Me
After a recent passing of a friend of mine I made the decision to give dating another shot. Life is too short to just sit back and wait, I thought. Unfortunately, I am not a very outgoing person. At least not the type that goes to clubs and bars and hit on people and score phone numbers. So, dating sites it was...
I made a profile, filled in a questionnaire and uploaded a picture and soon enough the matches came in. I started chatting with very interesting people, you can't see what they look like until you talked for a certain amount of time. In my mind I figured that the people matched to me would be just as friendly and kindhearted as i am, since they filled in the same questionnaire. So what could go wrong...
The first person I talked to went a bit awkward at first, I wasn't sure what to talk about but after we connected on a certain hobby it started to go somewhere. Finally the pictures went visible and it looked decent...and poof. The screen disappeared, I was blocked. "Strange..." I thought, "Am I that ugly? Oh well..." I moved on, trying to not get discouraged after one setback. A second match came, it didn't went as awkward as the first one since it was a more chatty person and I fed from that energy. Again the profile pictures went visible and again decent looking. I gave a complement and a thanks came in as a reply and it went silent. It was late anyway so I went to bed the next day I was blocked yet again. Same went for a few others after that and some still don't talk back to me but I kept saying to myself that they must be busy, that's why they haven't talked back.
It isn't going to well and these are people that almost had a similar score on the questionnaire as I had. Still, I wasn't very likable to them.
I talked to some friends and they assured me that I wasn't boring or ugly which were a few theories I came up with to explain this lack of success.
So, I tried a different approach which was the "speeddate" option. Instead of people that are your match, you'll be chatting with someone randomly. Still you have to chat with them for a certain amount of time to unlock the picture and as soon as we reached to that point I got blocked again.
I am sad for real now, because I think I know why I get blocked. It's not because I am boring otherwise they would leave sooner and not wait until the reveal of the picture. Because that's quite a long chat until that happens. I do believe that it has to do with my skintone, they didn't like it which is fine if that is their preference. I just find the blocking without saying a bit hurtful and I know rejecting someone in general is a hard thing to do but it's at least a more humane way to be treated.
I really am debating with myself weather I should continue this quest for love. Since I am not unhappy being singel.
I made a profile, filled in a questionnaire and uploaded a picture and soon enough the matches came in. I started chatting with very interesting people, you can't see what they look like until you talked for a certain amount of time. In my mind I figured that the people matched to me would be just as friendly and kindhearted as i am, since they filled in the same questionnaire. So what could go wrong...
The first person I talked to went a bit awkward at first, I wasn't sure what to talk about but after we connected on a certain hobby it started to go somewhere. Finally the pictures went visible and it looked decent...and poof. The screen disappeared, I was blocked. "Strange..." I thought, "Am I that ugly? Oh well..." I moved on, trying to not get discouraged after one setback. A second match came, it didn't went as awkward as the first one since it was a more chatty person and I fed from that energy. Again the profile pictures went visible and again decent looking. I gave a complement and a thanks came in as a reply and it went silent. It was late anyway so I went to bed the next day I was blocked yet again. Same went for a few others after that and some still don't talk back to me but I kept saying to myself that they must be busy, that's why they haven't talked back.
It isn't going to well and these are people that almost had a similar score on the questionnaire as I had. Still, I wasn't very likable to them.
I talked to some friends and they assured me that I wasn't boring or ugly which were a few theories I came up with to explain this lack of success.
So, I tried a different approach which was the "speeddate" option. Instead of people that are your match, you'll be chatting with someone randomly. Still you have to chat with them for a certain amount of time to unlock the picture and as soon as we reached to that point I got blocked again.
I am sad for real now, because I think I know why I get blocked. It's not because I am boring otherwise they would leave sooner and not wait until the reveal of the picture. Because that's quite a long chat until that happens. I do believe that it has to do with my skintone, they didn't like it which is fine if that is their preference. I just find the blocking without saying a bit hurtful and I know rejecting someone in general is a hard thing to do but it's at least a more humane way to be treated.
I really am debating with myself weather I should continue this quest for love. Since I am not unhappy being singel.
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