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I'm Worried About Losing The Person I Care About Most

I'm worried about my very ill girlfriend (warning, this is a very long read; proceed with caution)

I'm in a long distance relationship with a girl. She's been very ill for a while and I don't know exactly what the cause of it is but she pretty much made her condition worse and worse by over working, having jobs when she didn't even need it financially because she's pretty well off only because she wanted to fill up her time. Understandable right? Well the problem was, even while feeling ill, she kept pushing her limits. Her doctor thinks it's stress and even if it were true, I'm starting to think it's turned into a more sinister culprit. As of late, every time we'd talk, she'd pause, grunt in pain and told me she always felt nauseous. She took my advice and quit her third job that she did not need. This was very gradual by the way. She slowly week by week sounded more and more ill and in pain. She sounds like she has completely lost her voice. Her voice has been sounding very horse as of recently and I've noticed that for the past few days now. I really do hope she pulls thru but I hope the damage isn't beyond repair and that it's too late because she is very stubborn and refused to take heed to the obvious, which was giving her a self a break, especially when she could afford to quit a couple of her jobs financially. She kept pushing thru, maybe because of pride or whatever but it frustrates me that this could've all been avoided. When we first started talking she still got sick but barely proving that it's not her being burnt out that's causing it but it certainly did not make it better, in fact it made her condition a lot worse. Every time she went to her doctor, she continued to wanna run blood batteries despite getting the same result which was low iron. That could be it but what annoyed me the most was them brushing her issue as "stress related" not realizing that stress related illness can manifest into actual illness. She did phone her doctor today and they think it's organ related now. She also had a pattern of not eating much and irregularly. She also frequently slept right after eating which isn't good for the stomach and could explain at least partially why she's always wanting to throw up. I told her to take a nap and despite wanting her not to so we could talk, I could not be that much of a selfish prick and suggested that myself. This was 1:00 p.m my time. There is a five hour difference. So in her time zone, she has slept over 8 hours and is still sleeping. That's a hell of a long time for a nap. She deserves it honestly but my paranoid mind is starting to convince myself that something horrible happened like she's in critical condition in the ER somewhere, hopefully not. She always messages me with a good morning text every morning. She has not missed a single day. If she doesn't tomorrow, that will confirm something terrible has happened.
Yeah she def needs to take a break from work, put her health first and start seeing some specialists. Maybe she could bring her previous medical paperwork that way they won’t have to constantly re-do testing since it’s new patient policy or whatever.
justicexoxoxo · 26-30, M
@DecafD As crazy as this sounds, nobody knows. She really likes to put on this I'm happy everything is okay mask even if everything is falling apart for her. That's not to bad mouth her, that's just the truth and this is something she admits to herself being a major problem and flaw about her. If and when she hits me up tomorrow morning I will see if I can make that happen.
@justicexoxoxo I get it- I knew a girl that survived 2 cancers alone and she had this big, supportive family that could’ve helped her through all of it and she chose not to worry them. Looking back she really wishes she told her mom bc what if it came back and it was bc they couldn’t remove it all in the previous operations- like how do you explain that to your family? Maybe offer your support that if she doesn’t have the courage or is scared to open up about this with her family that maybe you could help? I dunno...like you could write an email for her or help her craft the text that she will use to send people. It can’t go on like that. That’s dangerous for her health.
justicexoxoxo · 26-30, M
@DecafD She's very stubborn, that's all I'm gonna say. She gets it though. She quit her third job, she's resting and not pushing herself anymore. The burning question is, is it too late? That's rhetorical by the way. I don't know the answer to that, I'm sure you don't either and that's what worries me the most. I guess I'll find out tomorrow.
If any of her jobs require taking a lot it will strain the voice. I would regularly lose my voice when I worked customer service because of how much I had to talk.

I emphasize with your worry. But there's not much you can do about it right now. I'm sorry.
justicexoxoxo · 26-30, M
@CleverFunnyNameGoesHere Well the job she quit today was dominos. She had 3 well now 2 active jobs now. She really burnt herself out and stretched herself thin. The way she was going she was going to collapse at some point. She was treating her mind and body with zero regard whatsoever.
@justicexoxoxo sometimes it's not about how you treat yourself. Sometimes it's about paying rent, electricity, and getting your next meal. A lot of people don't have the option to take time off if they don't have paid leave. I'm lucky enough to have a partner who works (and who never really gets sick thank God) so when I'm not working our bills will still get paid. But every single woman with minimum wage jobs has worked or will work herself sick at least once.
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She's young so that's that in her favor. Hopefully it'll all be ok.

 
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