I Have Something to Say
On Saturday, a fake profile trashed all of my stories and wrote a nasty story about me. Yes, I know who it is. My friend told me to take the high road but the best way to handle the situation is to tell the truth.
I met a man on EP through a friend. He is married with 2 kids. Absolutely no romance involved. We talked about baseball, comedy and our jobs. We lost contact for many months, but he friended me on SW.
He asked to speak to me about a problem-it was about an affair he was having. She was at least 20+ years older than him. He described the verbal, mental and emotional abuse he was enduring. He said she had borderline personality disorder. I know from experience this is not curable. I listened and told him he needed to get out as soon as possible.This was not fixable. It would not end well. He claimed they had a ”special connection.”
The second time he contacted me, it was escalating. I could see for myself what was going on. I told him I had no more advice to give him and to again, get out.
The third time he contacted me, I lost my patience. He wasn’t listening, I was wasting my time and I told him he deserved what he got. I told him I did not want to be involved anymore. I actually felt guilty because I knew he needed someone to talk to. Little did I know….
Out of the blue, a second married woman contacted me. Seems they had a “special connection” going too. Their stories were NOT matching. When he tried to complain about her to me, I told him I didn’t want to be involved in that either AND I did not carry tales between the 2.
MW2 and I watched as the abuse escalated. MW1 was posting nasty headlines, removing stories, flirting with other men and it was nasty. He would write a story, she would make him take it down and rewrite it to her liking.
I received an email from him stating he had to leave SW. IT was causing him nothing but trouble. I hardly thought that was fair he was leaving and she remained on here playing. I wrote a story that I was worried for him. He had deleted his account.
Someone tipped him off about my story. He called and asked that I remove the borderline personality line and block her. I did. He then started harassing me to remove the story in its entirety. He said he was afraid. She has all of his numbers and didn’t I care about his 2 yr old….(apparently he didn’t).
To be honest, I decided I didn’t want the outcome to be on my conscience so I came online to delete the story. She had another fake profile bashing the story along with her other “special friend” I deleted the story and blocked the fake profiles.
It was all a ploy. There was no danger. He used his innocent kids to make me feel guilty to remove the story. The whole ugly story became increasingly clear. I was used, lied to and played. All for being a friend. I have to admit, I was more than angry.
I was talking to a psych professional who explained what was going on. I couldn’t understand why he allowed this abuse. It was 2 illnesses feeding off one another. The truth hit me like a brick to the face. I recognized only part of the problem.
This past weekend, her new fake profile trashed all of my stories accusing me of wanting this guy, being a predator, a bully, etc…and calling me names. He wrote a nasty story, naming my name and accusing me of being mad for not taking my advice.
Why in the world would I want to get involved in this mess? And be number 4 in the food chain? Not likely. I am single and don’t need to date married men. When he posted a nasty story about me, I had had enough. I wish them everything they deserve. And more.
I met a man on EP through a friend. He is married with 2 kids. Absolutely no romance involved. We talked about baseball, comedy and our jobs. We lost contact for many months, but he friended me on SW.
He asked to speak to me about a problem-it was about an affair he was having. She was at least 20+ years older than him. He described the verbal, mental and emotional abuse he was enduring. He said she had borderline personality disorder. I know from experience this is not curable. I listened and told him he needed to get out as soon as possible.This was not fixable. It would not end well. He claimed they had a ”special connection.”
The second time he contacted me, it was escalating. I could see for myself what was going on. I told him I had no more advice to give him and to again, get out.
The third time he contacted me, I lost my patience. He wasn’t listening, I was wasting my time and I told him he deserved what he got. I told him I did not want to be involved anymore. I actually felt guilty because I knew he needed someone to talk to. Little did I know….
Out of the blue, a second married woman contacted me. Seems they had a “special connection” going too. Their stories were NOT matching. When he tried to complain about her to me, I told him I didn’t want to be involved in that either AND I did not carry tales between the 2.
MW2 and I watched as the abuse escalated. MW1 was posting nasty headlines, removing stories, flirting with other men and it was nasty. He would write a story, she would make him take it down and rewrite it to her liking.
I received an email from him stating he had to leave SW. IT was causing him nothing but trouble. I hardly thought that was fair he was leaving and she remained on here playing. I wrote a story that I was worried for him. He had deleted his account.
Someone tipped him off about my story. He called and asked that I remove the borderline personality line and block her. I did. He then started harassing me to remove the story in its entirety. He said he was afraid. She has all of his numbers and didn’t I care about his 2 yr old….(apparently he didn’t).
To be honest, I decided I didn’t want the outcome to be on my conscience so I came online to delete the story. She had another fake profile bashing the story along with her other “special friend” I deleted the story and blocked the fake profiles.
It was all a ploy. There was no danger. He used his innocent kids to make me feel guilty to remove the story. The whole ugly story became increasingly clear. I was used, lied to and played. All for being a friend. I have to admit, I was more than angry.
I was talking to a psych professional who explained what was going on. I couldn’t understand why he allowed this abuse. It was 2 illnesses feeding off one another. The truth hit me like a brick to the face. I recognized only part of the problem.
This past weekend, her new fake profile trashed all of my stories accusing me of wanting this guy, being a predator, a bully, etc…and calling me names. He wrote a nasty story, naming my name and accusing me of being mad for not taking my advice.
Why in the world would I want to get involved in this mess? And be number 4 in the food chain? Not likely. I am single and don’t need to date married men. When he posted a nasty story about me, I had had enough. I wish them everything they deserve. And more.
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