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Fallenfromgrace · F
Is it like to being introverted?
Aidan · 26-30
@Cashout: or just because you don't like connection
Canicu69 · 70-79, M
@Cashout: @Nonexistent: people with PTSD have a problem with crowds, the fear of rejection, and they avoid those areas. It is not their comfort zone. It is unexplainable to someone who has not had the experiences that the person suffering from the anxiety. I know, I have PTSD
Intissima · F
@SW-User have you ever tried to face the fear? That’s what I’m trying. Going out when my brain is on high alert.
I also have my own thoughts on the rejection part.
Depending on what the persons circumstances where how they developed it etc.
Me personally I think it all leads to the fear of death rather than rejection.
So when I was (no fault of my mothers she was going to visit her dying mother abroad) separated from my mother at six months it stems from there.
She only went away for 3 months but the lady who was looking after me couldn’t so another lady took over (another family friend who had just lost her new born child and wS possibly suffering from post natal depression or just depression) and she breastfeeding fed me too. Which she also was just trying to look out for me.
When a child’s needs to survive are met by the primary caregiver it feels safe and secure and the brain develops a healthy emotional bond.
When the childs needs are not met by the primary care giver or the child has been abandoned, neglected, multiple care givers, and many other possible scenarios even unwanted pregnancy apparently
then (i have read this somewhere so feel free to disagree)...
....then the child learns that it cannot rely on humans to fulfil its needs to survive.
That it has to rely on itself to stay alive.
Now here is where I go of into my own theories.
The brain develops coping mechanisms to survive. It continuously reminds that person that if they don’t act or behave that way they will die.
It becomes extremely highly
Sensitive to the surrounds more so than the average person.
That’s why when a person of this style interacts with humans or external stimulation outdoors for example they become physically and mentally exhausted. Because their brain survival flight or fight response has just been activated and they are protecting themselves from death. Even the most mundane activities can trigger this (which you know of course)
Hence why some of them are branded “Lazy” when all they are trying to do is calm their over active mind. Recuperate regenerate.
I think the fear becomes the love.
Instead of love replace it with fear.
They know fear they know they are safe with fear because they survived it and are not afraid to face threats.
They have been surviving for a long time and just want to continue to survive.
They learn to love fear.
They are survivors.
What’s amazing is when a person recognises that illegitimate fear and can stand strong amidst it. Let themselves be loved.
I’m sorry i can ramble sometimes.
If there is anything inappropriate I apologise. Sending you hugs 🤗
I also have my own thoughts on the rejection part.
Depending on what the persons circumstances where how they developed it etc.
Me personally I think it all leads to the fear of death rather than rejection.
So when I was (no fault of my mothers she was going to visit her dying mother abroad) separated from my mother at six months it stems from there.
She only went away for 3 months but the lady who was looking after me couldn’t so another lady took over (another family friend who had just lost her new born child and wS possibly suffering from post natal depression or just depression) and she breastfeeding fed me too. Which she also was just trying to look out for me.
When a child’s needs to survive are met by the primary caregiver it feels safe and secure and the brain develops a healthy emotional bond.
When the childs needs are not met by the primary care giver or the child has been abandoned, neglected, multiple care givers, and many other possible scenarios even unwanted pregnancy apparently
then (i have read this somewhere so feel free to disagree)...
....then the child learns that it cannot rely on humans to fulfil its needs to survive.
That it has to rely on itself to stay alive.
Now here is where I go of into my own theories.
The brain develops coping mechanisms to survive. It continuously reminds that person that if they don’t act or behave that way they will die.
It becomes extremely highly
Sensitive to the surrounds more so than the average person.
That’s why when a person of this style interacts with humans or external stimulation outdoors for example they become physically and mentally exhausted. Because their brain survival flight or fight response has just been activated and they are protecting themselves from death. Even the most mundane activities can trigger this (which you know of course)
Hence why some of them are branded “Lazy” when all they are trying to do is calm their over active mind. Recuperate regenerate.
I think the fear becomes the love.
Instead of love replace it with fear.
They know fear they know they are safe with fear because they survived it and are not afraid to face threats.
They have been surviving for a long time and just want to continue to survive.
They learn to love fear.
They are survivors.
What’s amazing is when a person recognises that illegitimate fear and can stand strong amidst it. Let themselves be loved.
I’m sorry i can ramble sometimes.
If there is anything inappropriate I apologise. Sending you hugs 🤗
Intissima · F
@SW-User you are welcome 🙏🏽