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I Believe That "Homemaker" Is a Perfectly Valid Occupation

For people who say that people can't afford to allow the woman to be a stay-at-home mom, read this.

Americans are so spoiled that they think they have to have smartphones, multiple cars, shopping for clothes every week, and bigger homes, that's why women can't afford to stay home. Here are some tips:

1. Get rid of your smartphones. A $20 phone from Walmart will work just as well .
2. Get rid of your cable. Downgrade your internet.
3. Turn the lights off when not in use. The same goes for reducing gas and water use.
4. Get cash cars.
5. Cook your own meals and stop eating processed junk from fast food restaurants and grocery stores.
6. BUDGET. Learn. Practice. Execute a budget. It works.
7. Downsize the home. Look for cheaper apartments/ houses for rent. You don't need 3+ bedrooms unless you plan on growing your family.
8. Take a bus to save on gas costs. And no, you Americans aren't too good for public transport a few days out of the week.
9. Stop at one kid, or before having kids, start to save, downgrade, and budget.
10. Women, start marrying up. Marry a man who can afford to take care of his family on one income while you raise the children at home.
11. Women, learn to do your own hair/nails. You don't have to throw your money at hair dressers to look good. From my culture (black), black women think that they absolutely can't survive without their weaves/relaxers. They blow hundreds of dollars on weaves when it's much cheaper to do their own hair, instead of trying to fill an image of beauty. Men, if she can do her own hair, don't give her any money to go to a hair salon. It's a waste of money!

Also, most men don't want to stay at home. Trust telling you the truth.
You are absolutely right. Homemaker is not only a perfectly valid occupation, but is one of the most non-valued occupations. Your suggestions are very sensible, and quite realistic in contrast to what so many people think. It's all doable, and would bring healthy connection back to the family.
lovecatsnothumans · 31-35, F
@sophrai: I'm glad I see that some men agree wth this. Thank you.
Quimliqer · 70-79, M
You need to teach the next generation!!! Your outlook is so profound and realistic..kids need to know this as they go into society..kudos to you!!
lovecatsnothumans · 31-35, F
Thank you.
Shayla · F
My family doesn't believe in using babysitters other than family for young kids. I miss working. I miss having nice stuff. I have not missed out on watching my children grow. Some sacrifices are definitely worth it.
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Shayla · F
@lovecatsnothumans: I really think you either misread what I said or stopped reading halfway through.
SW-User
Well said. My wife stays home with the two kids for now, but she'll go back to work in a year or so. It's been tough, but as you say just budget and you can do it.
lovecatsnothumans · 31-35, F
How old are the kids?
SW-User
@lovecatsnothumans: both under 3
I pretty much agree with everything you say except limiting number of children to one -- and on that I disagree a lot!
lovecatsnothumans · 31-35, F
@beckychandler: People can have as many kids as they want, as long as they can afford them or want to afford them.
@lovecatsnothumans: The problem with the contraceptive attitude is that people wait until the "right time" --financially, emotionally or whatever. And the truth of the matter is that with things like this (like marriage as well) there never really is a "right time" and so the opportunity just slips them by. No one knows whether they will be financially ready to care for a child for 18 plus years (or what that might even mean with that particular child) --no one has a crystal ball. These are things that are rightly be left to providence rather than pretending we are God and can know the future.
Kathryn05 · 41-45, F
@beckychandler: This 1000% there is no right time there is just now! And you know what why not just leave it up to God's plan? It usually worked out well for our ancestors that way. A big family is a happy one I think.

And if you can budget and do all of the things above you can afford to raise a family on one income.
Blessedsoul81 · 41-45, C
Im gonna crown you with a little nickname lol, Empress of TRUTH! 👍
lovecatsnothumans · 31-35, F
@CBMinistries: thx
Mugin16 · 46-50, M
Good points.
ravenwind43 · 51-55, F
This isn't terrible advice, but not always practical:)
lovecatsnothumans · 31-35, F
Never said it was practical, but I think it's good for people to implement it into their lives. It's not impossible.
ravenwind43 · 51-55, F
A couple of them are depending on where you live. Not everyone is in a city. There are no busses or taxis in a rural areas. There isn't always cheaper housing available because it's usually taken lol. Plus, if you have children in school who need the internet how do you downgrade? That is what I meant about it being good advice, but it's not going to work for all people.

 
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