I Believe That "Homemaker" Is a Perfectly Valid Occupation

I want to be a housewife SO BADLY. It's my dream and I can't seem to get around it. Every time I thought about the question, "What do I want to do with my life," career-wise, I never had a straight answer. It either came down to art, or .......I don't know what else. Then I came across the "radical" notion that, "What if I could just be a house-girlfriend or housewife?" I'd brought it up to an ex I was with, and he tore into me about it, criticizing me, saying that it's "lazy" and that he'd rather have money than a clean house and homemade meals (he used to eat nothing but fast food and would complain about feeling like crap. He also lived with his mom and took two months off work once, while not paying any bills. He's a hypocrite).

I've always been more of a homebody. I also have social anxiety and a fear for driving, so I feel as if I'm being forced to be an independent, unprotected woman in this society. I am not an independent woman. I don't want to have to grind and work outside the home. I could be independent if I have to, but I'd be extremely unhappy too, as I am now.

I don't have any interest in any of the set careers we have to choose from. From what I can understand, most careers that I would be interested in, like anything that has to do with art or design, really aren't that available. I honestly don't mind JUST cooking, cleaning, laundry, crafting and knitting. It's real work, but more peaceful than stressing out over deadlines, paper work, customers, bosses, and traffic. Why can't I just be a house-gf/housewife? Why is it so much to ask for? It's not like I have to take out loans, study, and commute while wasting gas.

It's not as if I'm a gold digger who expects my man to buy me Louis Vuittons and Jimmy Choos all the time. It's not expensive nor is it a hassle. It's literally allowing me to just stay home. I don't mind being spoiled, emotionally and material-wise, but all I want to do is be a stay-at-home WIFE. But why is it so hard for men to understand?

If I can just find a loving, strong man who can afford me this lifestyle, I will spoil the absolute crap out of him! He would deserve it!