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how do i decline someone borrowing money? i have autism so i have trouble asserting myself. she keeps on pushing me that i let her borrow money

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MeowsoliniReturns · 46-50, F Best Comment
You can say, "I am sorry, but I am not comfortable with lending you money." "I feel uncomfortable when you keep asking. Please respect my decision."
sadcarrot · 22-25, F
[@1079831,MeowsoliniReturns] thank you maam this helps me a lot..
MeowsoliniReturns · 46-50, F
[@1186371,sadcarrot] My pleasure! 🤗

Bados · 90-99, M
Learn to say no. Not easy but necessary
CountScrofula · 36-40, M
All you can do is say "No, it is not nice to keep asking me. I cannot lend you money. It is not fair to pressure me like this."
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
Say No !
Politely but firmly.

No need to get into the why nots

No I’m not going to lend you any money !

Keep it simple. That way they’re guaranteed to understand it
Reflection2 · 36-40, M
Keep on asking? Put a full stop to it.
wackidywack · 22-25
tell her you need it for yourself, that you can't let her borrow
in10RjFox · M
The problem is that you have money to lend. Get rid of it and you shall have no one pestering you anymore. 🤣
Oneofthestormboys · 51-55, M
This must be very stressful for you.
I suggest that as have autism and may not be lucky enough to be assertive in conversation, to put how you feel in writing to the person in question (email). In this way, you can avoid the spontaneity in verbal conversations, be far more concise in how you feel and also establish an audit trail for the future if the request becomes overly invasive.
This is just my advice, and what I’d do in your position.
Take care x
Bushmanoz · 56-60, M
You can always say "lending money once ruined a really good friendship so I would rather not do it again and risk our friendship, I hope you understand"
Lostpoet · 31-35, M
Tell them you don't have any money to lend
TurtlePink · 18-21, F
Just say you have covid
That one word should suffice.
eyeno · M
[b]Good Way to loose friends and potential ones.
In my youth I too struggled with the word "NO".
Now when people in need ask or ask to borrow and [u]I decide to give[/u], I'll just resign myself to accept the fact that I'll never see it ever again, which is usually the case.

One such person actually hid her face as I passed by the table she was sitting at with co-workers in a restaurant.
I could have made a scene and probably have her fired (using company financial records) but felt this was payment enough (shame & guilt) from her.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
Say no. You have autism, you’re not stupid and should say that exactly that way.

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