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Don't deserve to be called a bad mum.

Today was a pretty good day, got my daughter off to nursery, got all my work done, lots of meetings, took my MS medicine which involves injecting myself, kept to my diet and found out I'd lost .3 kilos, picked my daughter up, all while my partner slept as he is on the night shift.

Now I know this doesn't sound like a lot but I am currently in a relapse with my MS which makes things harder to do.

So good day until I needed to change my daughter's nappy. My partner was up and about getting ready to got to work and my daughter was not having any of it, struggling, wiggling around and managed to kick me right in the spot where I did my injection. So I took some deep breaths and asked my partner to help as I was in a lot of pain, only to be told that I'm a bad mum for not being able to do it myself...

Not the first time he's told me I'm a bad mum and it won't be the last. I know I don't deserve it, I do look after the both of them really well, but today it just got to me and I'm trying so hard to let it go because I don't want my daughter to see me upset. It just hurts when I try so hard and all I get are put downs and hurtful things said to me.
I have never once called my wife a bad mother and we have been married for over 30 years. And I would never ever consider calling her that. (For the record, she is a wonderful mother--our kids, now grown, know this but do not fully appreciate it.)
Mamapolo2016 · 70-79, F
You don't deserve it, and he knows it. He just didn't want to do it (because he's above all that?) and decided to stab you in the heart in retaliation.
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
That’s such an ugly thing to say. Truly I find it unacceptable. Parenthood ( for those that have partners) is a team effort. We all need the other to help at times. You are not a bad mum because you asked the father of your child to help you with her. You are not a bad mum if you get tired, stressed, overwhelmed etc You are a human being who deserves respect. It sounds like your child is quite young. I hope your partner doesn’t make a habit of belittling you or others. It’s not healthy for you & certainly not something you’d want to have your child hear, feel or experience. I hope you don’t let this moment drag you down although I understand how it could. 🌷
AquaTofana · 36-40, F
[@455213,Mrsbetweenfatandfit] thank you, I try not to let it, but letting my family down is a big fear
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
Why are you with him? Is this the type of man you want your daughter to wind up with also? Children learn what they live.
AquaTofana · 36-40, F
[@11509,Keepitsimple] he has trust issues and since our daughter was born worries constantly about her, he hasn't got people to talk it out with and would never have counselling. It's not bad enough for me to want to leave but it's hard to get him to understand why it hurts to hear it.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
I wish you luck, that’s enough for me to pack his bags and kick him to the curb. You and your daughter will pay the price for his issues. You deserve better.[@1200811,AquaTofana]
AquaTofana · 36-40, F
[@11509,Keepitsimple] thank you x
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If the kids are hearing that, it hurts them too. If he cares about them too, he should shut up. 😒
AquaTofana · 36-40, F
[@1188491,ColonelPringle] I don't think he thinks about that bring an option as she's 16 months old, the problem is he just doesn't think
Nayla · 51-55, F
You did not deserve that comment! He needs counselling
AquaTofana · 36-40, F
[@506684,DawsonsGrove] he does, he's had he's had crappy childhood which has given him trust issues but he'll never do it.
Nayla · 51-55, F
[@1200811,AquaTofana] unfortunately you’re bearing the brunt of his abuse and if he doesn’t get help, he won’t stop.
Fairydust · F
I’m sorry that’s awful, no support for you. Has he said that before? 😞

 
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