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I'm Going To Be Me Unapologetically

There is always someone somewhere that is not going to like you. It is hard to not take it personally when you try so hard. I decided I can only control my thoughts, feelings and behavior, not anyone elses.

Some people are taken aback at my frankness. I believe if you ask my opinion, I should give it but I try to do it with kindness.

Yet, there still are the backstabbers, the liars, the bullies and the cheats. The people who are going to turn any situation around to serve their advantage.

Then there are the cowards. The ones that don't have the courage to say "I don't agree with you" or "Lets talk about someone else" OR " Lets agree to disagree".

You have the backstabbers who only tell what YOU say and of course it is taken out of context. Your words are used against you when you thought you were having a confidential conversation.

There are the toxic drama queens who are attention w**.ores...everything is about them and if it isn't, they make it so...God help them.

Recently I have had my feelings hurt. Some unkind things were said that were not true for all of the above reasons.

I licked my wounds, then did some serious thinking. I looked for the kernel of truth. I believe there is a lesson to be learned in every situation.

You are always going to find someone, somewhere that is going to rain on your parade just to do it...remove them from your life...because life is too short to deal with problem people. Lesson learned. There is this saying "s**ew me once, shame on you....s. rew me twice, shame on me"

I am becoming less tolerant of bad behavior...so if I do something to offend you, please tell me so I can apologize properly. I promise to do the same to you.
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Harley52
There will always be people who can't get along with others. They are not outcasts, not all of them. They choose to be that way and it seems to give them great delight. The secret is not to let them get you down. Not for long anyway. It is hard to NOT let them get to you. They seem to be able to find out what gets to you and they use it with no shame on their part.
You will always come out above them because you are a good person. And you care. That is a shining part of you that most of us have come to admire....and love. You will never offend me by telling me your thoughts. I respect that and hope that I can be that way too. It is very hard to do so in these times because you are correct. There are drama queens (both men & women) who have to have the attention because they crave it so. The bad behavior is becoming more intrusive in our lives and, I'm afraid, will continue to do so.
So, no apologies are necessary but they are appreciated because you realize when you might have hurt someone even if inadvertantly. And you have feelings about it whereas they don't. That's what makes you different and better than them. Really......!
akindheart · 61-69, F
this makes me cry...you expressed it so eloquently...I had 4 things happen within a very short period of time. Usually I can roll with the punches, but not this time. it is ok, it is their karma not mine.