How do I stop being insecure over my dark complexion?

@zeeva70 it’s hard in England at times

@SW-User I empathize with you. Have you considered doing research on colorism, why it has impacted our people? Then looking at examples of people who chose to live unapologetic, radically accepting and loving themselves against all odds.

@zeeva70 I have considered it. It’s impacted me personally because my parents are immigrants from Nigeria and I impregnated a white woman from Ireland. It doesn’t sit well with them

@SW-User which part doesn't sit well with them: your biracial child or your feeling insecure about your dark skin?

@zeeva70 my biracial kid

These are different issues you know. Are you in a relationship with the mother? What do your parents say?@SW-User

@zeeva70 I’m not in a relationship with the mother. My parents say the bloodline has been tainted

@SW-User Culture is important but the child is here now. Do they spend time with him?

@zeeva70 they refuse to

@SW-User Give them time. They may come around.

@zeeva70 hopefully they won’t be dead by then

@SW-User find you a nice Nigerian woman unless they have picked one out for you..

@zeeva70 are you Nigerian?

@SW-User Nope but I know how Nigerian parents are or can be.

@zeeva70 it’s hell!!!!

I'm so sorry, @SW-User

@zeeva70 I’m just trying to get my daughter to love her blackness and not be like me

@SW-User That'll mostly come from you and her mother. Compliment her often and buy her books with people who look like her. Get in her head, letting her know she's beautiful, smart, funny, and loved.

@zeeva70 oh always do. No self hate in THIS house ❌❌❌

@SW-User good. Please understand that no matter how well you do at parenting, there's no guarantees that things will turn out as expected. Best thing you can do for her is to model self love and pride.

@zeeva70 I shall do this