I'm Sick Of The Lies
Real-life truths no one will tell us but we would do well to know:
1. The nicer you are the more people relax and lose their inhibitions, and let their true colors shine. The true colors are: “Give me more, more, more, this is not enough, I’m not happy with you, change to fit me and all I want!” It is fear that makes people “behave”, so people acting kindly is an illusion, that fades when you live day to day with the person and contradiction has the opportunity to surface.
2. People are not naturally monogamous, it is taught. People are not naturally committed, that is also taught. This doesn’t just go for romantic relationships, but friendships as well. People are quick to move on unless we are constantly trying to reinvent ourselves to be found pleasing to the other. So realize that people are not monogamous, people are never fully satisfied, no matter how hard you try, so do not take it personally when you notice this.
3. If we cease being pleasing, productive, and harmless we will be negatively labeled, sent to be “fixed”, and if we refuse to mold ourselves as others want, then we’ll be locked up or worse.
4. As you get together with your friends to laugh and mock others, keep something in mind. These friends do that exact same thing about you when you are not around. So again, don’t take it personally, it is just a normal trait of human nature.
5. When we were kids and didn’t know money was involved in everything, from why our teachers seemed to have more patience with us than our parents, why people are nice at stores, why people “care” to solve our problems; we thought there were people who actually cared for us. As adults when you look around and see none of your old teachers, no award for being the one kid who is quiet (at teachers struggling to maintain classroom management), no one teaching you anything anymore... we notice the facade, the illusion, the lie that is created by money and the human drive to survive in fear of pain. We open our eyes and realize that all we used to believe was a lie, a lie sold to us for a means to profit.
6. Humans, or should I say, interactions with humans will always consist of them telling you what to do. If another speaks you are being indirectly asked to listen, since when they look for your affirmation when they say, “Right?” You immediately have to respond with, “Uh huh...” in order for them not to get mad. Wants, humans are about their wants and want you to fulfill them. And lastly they will give you continuous “advice” on what you “should” do to “grow”, although most of the time they don’t even want to be involved in the process of making you “get” there, they just enjoy telling you what to do and giving suggestions even if you are happy with you you are and didn’t ask for advice.
This is why as adults we find ourselves in anger, desperation, anxiety, and loneliness. Why we develop trust issues and feel uncomfortable. No one told us these truths, no one got us ready to be mentally, emotionally, and physically self-sufficient. No one taught us the importance of not taking things personally, of mixing apathy into our psyche in order to not be overrun by emotions that expected a Jasmine and Aladdin, and instead have a dreadful routine where you feel taken advantage of.
1. The nicer you are the more people relax and lose their inhibitions, and let their true colors shine. The true colors are: “Give me more, more, more, this is not enough, I’m not happy with you, change to fit me and all I want!” It is fear that makes people “behave”, so people acting kindly is an illusion, that fades when you live day to day with the person and contradiction has the opportunity to surface.
2. People are not naturally monogamous, it is taught. People are not naturally committed, that is also taught. This doesn’t just go for romantic relationships, but friendships as well. People are quick to move on unless we are constantly trying to reinvent ourselves to be found pleasing to the other. So realize that people are not monogamous, people are never fully satisfied, no matter how hard you try, so do not take it personally when you notice this.
3. If we cease being pleasing, productive, and harmless we will be negatively labeled, sent to be “fixed”, and if we refuse to mold ourselves as others want, then we’ll be locked up or worse.
4. As you get together with your friends to laugh and mock others, keep something in mind. These friends do that exact same thing about you when you are not around. So again, don’t take it personally, it is just a normal trait of human nature.
5. When we were kids and didn’t know money was involved in everything, from why our teachers seemed to have more patience with us than our parents, why people are nice at stores, why people “care” to solve our problems; we thought there were people who actually cared for us. As adults when you look around and see none of your old teachers, no award for being the one kid who is quiet (at teachers struggling to maintain classroom management), no one teaching you anything anymore... we notice the facade, the illusion, the lie that is created by money and the human drive to survive in fear of pain. We open our eyes and realize that all we used to believe was a lie, a lie sold to us for a means to profit.
6. Humans, or should I say, interactions with humans will always consist of them telling you what to do. If another speaks you are being indirectly asked to listen, since when they look for your affirmation when they say, “Right?” You immediately have to respond with, “Uh huh...” in order for them not to get mad. Wants, humans are about their wants and want you to fulfill them. And lastly they will give you continuous “advice” on what you “should” do to “grow”, although most of the time they don’t even want to be involved in the process of making you “get” there, they just enjoy telling you what to do and giving suggestions even if you are happy with you you are and didn’t ask for advice.
This is why as adults we find ourselves in anger, desperation, anxiety, and loneliness. Why we develop trust issues and feel uncomfortable. No one told us these truths, no one got us ready to be mentally, emotionally, and physically self-sufficient. No one taught us the importance of not taking things personally, of mixing apathy into our psyche in order to not be overrun by emotions that expected a Jasmine and Aladdin, and instead have a dreadful routine where you feel taken advantage of.
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