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I Dont Fit In With My Family

I'm the black sheep of the family, but apart from that no one likes me, they only use me for their benefits, even if I try, I'm completely different in all ways. It almost like I was born in another family and was sent here.
Midnightsun2011
You don't have to hold on to the family you were born into. You can choose your own family, be it friends and people you trust, a boyfriend/girlfriend, or simply people who are there for you.Real family is made of people who make you feel like you belong. They love you for who you are, not for a reason or benefit. They are there for you.When I was your age I experienced exactly the same thing. I worked hard, both in school and also had a after-school job, to be able to move out at 18. That's when I began to work on myself and rebuild the self worth I lost as a kid and teen.Never forget your self worth. Find friends who are there for you. Love yourself because you are loveable and deserve the best in life.
ParadiseAdventurer
I hold the belief, that; I will help someone, only if they are willing to help themselves. Before I give a starving person a meal, I'll ask them, if they would like to go fishing for a meal. All to often, they say, I don't want to go fishing, I just need some money to buy a meal. Sorry Bud! I offered to get you a meal, and you refused it, I can't help you.
ParadiseAdventurer
I fixed the problem of my siblings mooching off of me. I haven't seen or talked to them for 50 years. I saved a lot of money, by telling them, "You my borrow money, only if you repay me what you owe me, otherwise, don't call me, unless you want to alert me, you are sending me a envelope full of Money. They have never called. Moral of the story; I'm of no use to them, anymore. They don't like me anymore. Ah gee......
Midnightsun2011
They probably only liked themselves in the first place. Good people don't need to sponge off others. For all they know, you could have incurred financial troubles because of the loss of money you borrowed them. Those who care about you don't want to inflict that kind of strain upon you. I say, good riddance.
ParadiseAdventurer
It was more simple than that. My family felt I owed them a living. Thus, we were incompatible, beyond repair.
Latesay · 26-30, F
I have a stepbrother, long story short we don't talk unless he needs money for any of his bitches, and I don't even talk to him again
EmeraldCity12
Individuality is a blessing. Nothing wrong with you other than you have a mind of your own. People that have a unique opinion are much more respected than those that just follow the crowd. That's hard to teach to think about and question things and be different.
Latesay · 26-30, F
well, I don't know, being an outcast is a blessing?
EmeraldCity12
No that isnt and not what I meant to say. But rather that others should appreciate the differences in others.
Latesay · 26-30, F
true, thank you
erik2000erik200
Sometimes I feel like you. Even if I know that my parents love me, they are different with me than with my sister. I get many beatings, they use the belt and cane very often. My sister is almost never spanked.
Latesay · 26-30, F
I feel the same, except I know that my parents don't love me, she said it herself, in her own words "I would never love someone like you, you make me hate you".
erik2000erik200
wow that sounds terrible.
Latesay · 26-30, F
well, it might since she gave birth to me but I don't care anymore
321Peach
I'm the black sheep of the family, too. I just basically got kicked out for telling the truth and refusing to play their games. Hang in there, get professional support, and make your own family. Live your life!
Latesay · 26-30, F
Thanks for the advice!
321Peach
You're welcome!
Chorusofangels
The life of an Old Soul. You aren't alone, although it probably feels like it.
Latesay · 26-30, F
People tell me that, but it's hard to believe
Chorusofangels
https://youtu.be/wW64WsvHpR0

Watch that, you'll see.
Latesay · 26-30, F
wow
cymmetry
i'm the gay emo cousin.
Latesay · 26-30, F
Being with depression and a sociopath is what my mother is very ashamed of me, plus I'm not the girly type so she basically has nothing in common with me, how does she make it work? By beating me of course! yay for parenting...
My mother always lies about me so that they won't know the real me, but at home I clearly hear her when she insults me when talking to my father. And my father is....well another story.
cymmetry
i'm so sorry you're going thru that. i hope you can get out of that situation asap. i'm an adult and i'm still stuck being abused by my mom bc i cant take care of myself.
Latesay · 26-30, F
Don't worry, I'll be fine eventually. I'm sure you'll get out of there soon.
gamer69
I've almost completely cut my family out of my life
Midnightsun2011
That must have been a very difficult decision to make. Sometimes getting rid of past ties and negativity is the only way to finally get a chance at finding peace and happiness in life.
ParadiseAdventurer
When it came time for me to cut them out of my life, it was like a 1/4 turn faucet, just a quick twist to OFF, Zap.... Gone, forever.
AprilClements
I am feeling like you.
ArianatorGirl44
dansill
Baa Baa Baby

 
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