I Will Teach My Children Things My Parents Never Taught Me
Why do parents think teenagers are some crazy science that has yet to have been researched? There moods are not random, there feelings are not spontaneous, their arguments with their parents aren't for fun, theres a reason.
High school is this weird time when your finally growing up and experiencing the best and worst of what life has to offer. You start seeing the truth, and everything suddenly has a meaning, unlike when you were a kid and just went with the flow. Everything hurts more, and life becomes harder, a new toy can't cure sadness like It did when you were younger, in fact no materialistic thing can hide the truth of whats really bothering you. Damn, high school was tough, and my parents never made it easy.
I was extremely close to my parents and I love them dearly, but as I grew older I noticed alot of faults in their parenting that I have noted to myself to not make the same mistakes if and when I do have kids myself. I do not resent or blame them for this, they did the best they could and there is no perfect parent in the world.
Being the youngest of 4 kids with parents who weren't old but...werent young either... by the time it was my turn I guess they... kinda gave me more independance and didn't care so much. Thats where problems began. Yeah, they cared about me when I was spending too much money or going to bars with boys but on a day to day basis, I was alone. and scared. and then they do things that made my 17 year old self feel worthless and even more alone. They didn't understand me, maybe they didn't even know who I was. They didn't listen, maybe to the big things yes but never the little things. It triggered me to rebel, for some type of attention, to prove I was an adult. If your a parent of a teenager then do not treat your son or daughter like a child, and dont treat them like an adult. Sometimes my parents were harsh and forgot I was just a vulnerable child still growing to the world, and other times, they refused to believe my age and treated me like my younger cousins. I remember one occasion in particular, throughout my final year of high school, my mum had thought I was in the middle of my exams, when I was actually 2 weeks away from them. I know its not a big deal and my adult self wouldn't take to much thought to it-its jus the way my mum is-busy and all over the place. But I vividly remember the pain I felt inside, I had spoken about exams for a year, I had told her many times that the clock was ticking and I had only 1, 2 , 3 ect weeks left. maybe the fact that she didn't listen wasn't even the reason why it hurt, it just made me feel...small. Like my matters were unrecognised. For everyone in our local town exams were a big deal, everyone, including parents spoke about it, and my mum didn't even pay attention to mine. Ofcourse when I did begin exams, shed ask me how I went, wait for me to respond "really good" whether it was actually true or not, and then leave. If I had said "not so good" it would start an argument. I guess she wasn't really a school type parent, and didn't really care about pushing me, and thats okay. Kids can feel unappreciated too, they need approval. They are turning into adults and are changing every day, they want approval to say that they are becoming good people, and what their doing is right. Some parents, will criticise kids as they grow older, rather than paving the way for them to make better choices.
What I learnt from this stage in my life is that sometimes you have to be your own number 1 fan. Sometimes the people you love will let you down on more than 1 occasion, but love yourself, trust in yourself, boost YOURSELF up! I've had 100 fans and I've been my own fan on multiple occasions, I can achieve the same level of success in either situations
High school is this weird time when your finally growing up and experiencing the best and worst of what life has to offer. You start seeing the truth, and everything suddenly has a meaning, unlike when you were a kid and just went with the flow. Everything hurts more, and life becomes harder, a new toy can't cure sadness like It did when you were younger, in fact no materialistic thing can hide the truth of whats really bothering you. Damn, high school was tough, and my parents never made it easy.
I was extremely close to my parents and I love them dearly, but as I grew older I noticed alot of faults in their parenting that I have noted to myself to not make the same mistakes if and when I do have kids myself. I do not resent or blame them for this, they did the best they could and there is no perfect parent in the world.
Being the youngest of 4 kids with parents who weren't old but...werent young either... by the time it was my turn I guess they... kinda gave me more independance and didn't care so much. Thats where problems began. Yeah, they cared about me when I was spending too much money or going to bars with boys but on a day to day basis, I was alone. and scared. and then they do things that made my 17 year old self feel worthless and even more alone. They didn't understand me, maybe they didn't even know who I was. They didn't listen, maybe to the big things yes but never the little things. It triggered me to rebel, for some type of attention, to prove I was an adult. If your a parent of a teenager then do not treat your son or daughter like a child, and dont treat them like an adult. Sometimes my parents were harsh and forgot I was just a vulnerable child still growing to the world, and other times, they refused to believe my age and treated me like my younger cousins. I remember one occasion in particular, throughout my final year of high school, my mum had thought I was in the middle of my exams, when I was actually 2 weeks away from them. I know its not a big deal and my adult self wouldn't take to much thought to it-its jus the way my mum is-busy and all over the place. But I vividly remember the pain I felt inside, I had spoken about exams for a year, I had told her many times that the clock was ticking and I had only 1, 2 , 3 ect weeks left. maybe the fact that she didn't listen wasn't even the reason why it hurt, it just made me feel...small. Like my matters were unrecognised. For everyone in our local town exams were a big deal, everyone, including parents spoke about it, and my mum didn't even pay attention to mine. Ofcourse when I did begin exams, shed ask me how I went, wait for me to respond "really good" whether it was actually true or not, and then leave. If I had said "not so good" it would start an argument. I guess she wasn't really a school type parent, and didn't really care about pushing me, and thats okay. Kids can feel unappreciated too, they need approval. They are turning into adults and are changing every day, they want approval to say that they are becoming good people, and what their doing is right. Some parents, will criticise kids as they grow older, rather than paving the way for them to make better choices.
What I learnt from this stage in my life is that sometimes you have to be your own number 1 fan. Sometimes the people you love will let you down on more than 1 occasion, but love yourself, trust in yourself, boost YOURSELF up! I've had 100 fans and I've been my own fan on multiple occasions, I can achieve the same level of success in either situations
22-25, F
