you can pick your friends

You can pick your friends but not family is so true and friends are far less stress .I am sick of being accused of treating my oldest son differently to the others I dont .He causes me alot more stress than the others do and I often wonder where I went wrong .Every time he feels hard done by he goes crying to mummy and I get a headache from her , hes 30 years of age for god sake and expecting my grandchild ,I wish he would grow up and realise where his priorities lie .Money burns a hole in his pocket , when the girlfriend packs in work to have the child they will only have his income to relly on to pay the rent , bills etc and they have no savings and a baby on the way its really stressing me out .When I try to talk to him I get told I am picking on him I am sick of it .His track record speaks for itself , its not great but cant seem to get through to him and the wife isnt helping .Am I wrong to worry and try to get him to sort it out ? I dont think I am .