You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf

I guess the lesson is... That sometimes going with the flow hurts and when it hurts, you instinctually want to fight against the current... Maybe there is a happy medium... Instead of going with the flow and getting slammed by rocks the whole way, or exhausting yourself by futiley fighting against the current.... You've got to find a way to steer clear of the rocks as you float down stream