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WattdeFalk · 70-79, M
Hello, Miss A, I read of your painful love loss and I hope you don't mind a bit of friendly advice from a guy who was repeatedly knocked flat on my ass by failed love affairs, and tried more than once to off myself. Practical stuff for getting through the misery, no everything -is-beautiful bullshit.
There's a toy the Chinese invented, a puzzle with two little sleeves. Ever seen it? You put one finger of each hand in the sleeves and find you can't pull them out again. The more you struggle the more they grip. You have to give up to get out. When you collapse the puzzle and think and work a bit to gently push the sleeves the "wrong way," you're all right again. You see? It's a teaching aid. This is the bind we get in with our misery. I'm not getting into religion when I say how much simple meditation helped me get solid and able to solve life problems. Doctors have started writing about and leading meditation programs in hospitals for cancer patients, shock victims, and the like. It worked for me & I bet it can work for you. You don't enroll in a program or make some hard commitment. You just take a moment when you can to sit and listen to your deep gentle breathing, you picture gently closing a book cover over each thought that arises, to categorize it free of reaction: "That's about my old boyfriend," "That's about my laundry..." and return to your breath. Just a few minutes now and then, and the more you do it, though it might seem like "pushing the trap the wrong way" at first, you'll find you're developing a strong safe central place, neither happy nor sad but ready for what's coming. I thought for a long time this kinda thing would make me like a zombie. No. I appreciate happiness better, I more easily welcome sadness knowing it'll pass, and I'm okay in the midst of it all. If you think "That's too hard!" try thinking "That's my pain talking" and listen to your deep breath. And remember, most people on Earth are too busy just trying to survive to worry about their feelings. It's cuz we're blessed with a relatively easy, abundant life that we have such a luxury. No sense letting that fuck us up. "I'm too stupid to get all this or remember it!" Ssh, just breathe. Easy. Hope I helped. Peace. - "Reverend" Watt deFalk, clown, poet, and teacher-wannabe
There's a toy the Chinese invented, a puzzle with two little sleeves. Ever seen it? You put one finger of each hand in the sleeves and find you can't pull them out again. The more you struggle the more they grip. You have to give up to get out. When you collapse the puzzle and think and work a bit to gently push the sleeves the "wrong way," you're all right again. You see? It's a teaching aid. This is the bind we get in with our misery. I'm not getting into religion when I say how much simple meditation helped me get solid and able to solve life problems. Doctors have started writing about and leading meditation programs in hospitals for cancer patients, shock victims, and the like. It worked for me & I bet it can work for you. You don't enroll in a program or make some hard commitment. You just take a moment when you can to sit and listen to your deep gentle breathing, you picture gently closing a book cover over each thought that arises, to categorize it free of reaction: "That's about my old boyfriend," "That's about my laundry..." and return to your breath. Just a few minutes now and then, and the more you do it, though it might seem like "pushing the trap the wrong way" at first, you'll find you're developing a strong safe central place, neither happy nor sad but ready for what's coming. I thought for a long time this kinda thing would make me like a zombie. No. I appreciate happiness better, I more easily welcome sadness knowing it'll pass, and I'm okay in the midst of it all. If you think "That's too hard!" try thinking "That's my pain talking" and listen to your deep breath. And remember, most people on Earth are too busy just trying to survive to worry about their feelings. It's cuz we're blessed with a relatively easy, abundant life that we have such a luxury. No sense letting that fuck us up. "I'm too stupid to get all this or remember it!" Ssh, just breathe. Easy. Hope I helped. Peace. - "Reverend" Watt deFalk, clown, poet, and teacher-wannabe
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Thank you.
WattdeFalk · 70-79, M
Elegy · 46-50
Don't apologize, it's why we're here to some extent. You need to take care of yourself though.
benfaltiger004 · 46-50, M
What's been going on?
hope all is well.
hope all is well.
You're fine.. Everyone is a mess here ;)