I Know the Difference Between Lust and Love

Love is when someone can make you smile, you get that butterfly feeling in your stomach when you're talking to them, you want to know more about that person. Lust is when you have a strong sexual desire for someone, you want to lead them into the bedroom, get into their pants, more often than not you'll fantasize about that someone until that day comes.

My love and lust are never on the same page, though. My first and only real boyfriend, I was in love with him--well, his mind. I was not lusting after his body. Never once was sexually aroused just looking at him. Which is why we broke up. Now I have this huge crush on a guy working at a clothing store. Not once did I think about having sex with him, but he WAS really cute and he made me smile just talking to him. But at the same time there are two guys who I can't stop fantasizing over. One's an ex friend-with-benefits, and one's a close-ish friend who I've been crushing on for a while now. I'm not sure if I could envision myself in a loving, romantic relationship with either one of those two.

Is it too much to ask to find someone who I can both love AND lust after!?