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I Am Single

I have been single for a couple of years. Have since joined some singles' events and have joined two matchmaking agencies some time back. There were a couple of guys who were interested in me but I don't see it working out with them.

Call me picky but if I don't like the guy, I'm not going to force myself to pretend to like him, to give him false hopes that I want a relationship with him. And as depressing as it is to see everyone around me getting married, I would rather stay single than to be with someone who is unsuitable.

The worst relationship I had was being with a guy who abused me both physically and mentally. And because I was young and naive at that time, I thought our love can prevail all obstacles. I thought he would change. Long story short, he didn't and the abuse got worse. I also end up with bad debts with many banks trying to help him. So this could be a reason I'm more careful with whom I chose to be with. Because now, I know better than to ignore my gut feeling about a specific guy.

So 2 more of these arranged dates. Tbh, I'm actually a lil sick of going on these dates.
when I used to go on dating sites I always thought it would always be best to go out twice - one for the initial meeting and one for a real date. But that's only if you like the guy or girl.
ColoradoKid · 46-50, M
If you dont like going on them then dont. If you are not into it and being forced into it you are not going to have a good time. I my self am single but I am not going to force anything. I get dumped because of things I like. Not for a good reason like abuse or being cheated on.
homegirl · F
@ColoradoKid
I know. But I have already paid for these matchmaking services by the thousands. Which is why I feel pretty stupid right now.
ColoradoKid · 46-50, M
@homegirl There is nothing to feel stupid about. You are trying to be happy. I have been there. I am on a dating website that I subscribed to and have found no one. I have bought a ton of stuff to try to be happy and I have yet to wear the stuff I bought so I can say that I should feel stupid for buying it and not wearing it.
QuixoticSoul · 41-45, M
They still have matchmaking agencies? I thought those went the way of the dodo decades ago.
homegirl · F
@QuixoticSoul
They still have it where I'm from. Basically, you sign up for a membership. On their part, they hold classes for their members, such as etiquette, communication etc. They will do background checks, interview and ensure that their members are really single and are looking for a long-term relationship etc etc.
QuixoticSoul · 41-45, M
@homegirl Huh.

That reminds me of one of my favorite pieces of Soviet street photography.

“Who will be the new boss of the dating agency?” (The title is taken from one of the headlines in the newspaper she is reading)
Be cautious you don't really know what you are getting with online dating sites and all that it is easy to be deceitful on those sites so be careful who you trust
Stay single it's much easier and you are less likely to end up getting hurt

 
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