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I Live With My Boyfriend

Everything WAS great. I'm realizing more and more each day how useless he is. Yes, he's great for financial stability, HOWEVER, he does not have any home skills. Everything I ask hot to do is a half-ass chore. He doesn't bather, wash dishes, vacuum, pick up after himself, wash clothes, make the bed, clean our pets--the list is endless. He's upset that I dedicate most of my time to school and work. I'm sorry that I graduate this semester and have to work long hours to pay my half of the rent. Good for you that what I make in a week is equivalent to 3 hours.

I'm the one who takes care of EVERYTHING in OUR home! I shouldn't have to tell you to bathe or to wash your dishes, or to sweep/mop, clean the babies, etc. You expect me to do everything for you and this is not what I signed up for.

Besides that his health is atrocious. He already has the body of a 60-year-old and refuses to eat healthy unless I prepare all of his meals and force him to eat his vegetables. Everyday it's Chipotle despite how many times I tell him how unhealthy it is to consume that much salt and fat. For the days I do not cook because I'm at work until the morning he ONLY eats takeout. He sits his fat, lazy ass on the couch and watches football and cartoons while leaving all of the lights on and ruining my atmosphere. I tell him to not waste my time if this is who he truly is. I do not want to be with someone who's lifespan won't extend for another ten years.
Wait..you pay half the rent &&& he gets a maid, cook, a sex partner? Fuck that.
Bahahaha
I need a girlfriend if these are the perks, im switching teams.
@-Selah-: Hahaha this has to be best answer!
That never gets better. They don't wake up and decide they don't want to be a man child. Run while you can.
SoFine · 46-50, F
Men are indeed wired very different. You see dirt, he does not.
So.....know, he wont change. Then you put up with this or leave him. That is for you to decide.
Know that the only one that you can change and work on is you.
If you get upset about all of this, you are then lowering your body energy and building up resentment.
AND.... men don't take well to hints. You have to be direct, put a time on something you want him to do or not.
Remember he sees the world and what he values very different to you, if you make him wrong and you right, then you will always have huge issues with men.
thepixiestixs · 26-30, F
That is very true. Thank you for the insightful advice. I tried talking to him about it and it turned into a huge violent argument. Arguing with him is more of a let's get even rather than oh let's fix it. Does that make sense?
doctorlove · M
I'm not the best man basher. But I'd be working an exit plan.

I may not have followed this right, because you mentioned dishes both times - but does he not bathe his body? That's a pretty big red flag.
Move out then? It's not like you're married. Or are you under contract to rent the place with him?
thepixiestixs · 26-30, F
Yes ma'am. I have to be close to school as well. My family lives over an hour away. The commute would be horrendous.
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Goralski · 51-55, M
But that's all women's work
doctorlove · M
Especially the bathing. Women are always bathing.
Goralski · 51-55, M
@doctorlove: exactly. ...hows a dude suppost to wash his back
Pretzel · 61-69, M
I'm gonna say this with love - what you have is what you're gonna get

time sooner or later you're going to have to cut him loose.

pick your time.

sure give him a straight out ultimatum - group up or break up - but be prepared for a break

you need two adults in the relationship - and you're one short
FORMERLYbatovn · 56-60, M
if you think he will change and get better.......forget it.....pack it up.....suck it up......and get out before things get any worse........youre fooling yourself if you think he will change as long as you keep doing it all for him. find someone else to stay with till you can find your won place
JarJarBoom · 41-45, F
...it wont get any better..
NigelDoes · 56-60, M
Leave this wanker!
Pherick · 41-45, M
Ugg, sounds like someone who will never learn and really has no interest in getting better.
Fatjosh69 · 36-40, M
Yeah...what they said V

 
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