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My grandad married again and he was happy until his death - so I wouldn't knock it.
That said, I don't plan to marry again after this one is over. I've had enough of what society calls "Marriage" and the laws that are still used to entrap women in abusive marriages to this day.
That said, I don't plan to marry again after this one is over. I've had enough of what society calls "Marriage" and the laws that are still used to entrap women in abusive marriages to this day.
@HootyTheNightOwl what laws are being used to entrap women in abusive marriages now in the UK, unless you meant in other countries?
@TopOfTheWorld No, I mean England.
Take a look at the "good old" Universal Credit system, for example. They pay joint claims into one account - unless you are prepared to speak to a social worker and answer their stupid questions about how you are abused and get their agreement that you are in an abusive relationship.
They don't need approval from the other claimant to split the income, then - but, who's going to do that when they are already living with abuse???
It would be much better if they paid everyone separately and left them to decide for themselves if they want to spend the money for themselves or hand it over to their partner. As it is, the system is trapping people in the cycle of abuse because they have no access to the household income and they won't ask for the money to be paid directly to them out of fear of what might happen when their spouse finds half of the money missing.
Let's say that you live with abuse and you want to get out. How do you nickel and dime away a few pounds to live on for a while if your wife is the only one who has access to all the income for your household???
How do you show her that you can live in a much better way if she refuses to hand over as much as a penny to you???
But, yeah, England doesn't use the draconian "Head of household" laws to entrap people in impossible situations.
Take a look at the "good old" Universal Credit system, for example. They pay joint claims into one account - unless you are prepared to speak to a social worker and answer their stupid questions about how you are abused and get their agreement that you are in an abusive relationship.
They don't need approval from the other claimant to split the income, then - but, who's going to do that when they are already living with abuse???
It would be much better if they paid everyone separately and left them to decide for themselves if they want to spend the money for themselves or hand it over to their partner. As it is, the system is trapping people in the cycle of abuse because they have no access to the household income and they won't ask for the money to be paid directly to them out of fear of what might happen when their spouse finds half of the money missing.
Let's say that you live with abuse and you want to get out. How do you nickel and dime away a few pounds to live on for a while if your wife is the only one who has access to all the income for your household???
How do you show her that you can live in a much better way if she refuses to hand over as much as a penny to you???
But, yeah, England doesn't use the draconian "Head of household" laws to entrap people in impossible situations.
@HootyTheNightOwl if it was paid separately would you leave your husband, would it make that big a difference in your own case?
@TopOfTheWorld Yes... that's the only thing that is forcing me to stay - I can't save up enough to get out and support myself for a while.
@HootyTheNightOwl sorry to hear that, I hope you find a way to leave in the not too distant future.