rjc36 · 61-69, M
All I can say is to pray about it and don't stop trying. Maybe someday they will forgive your father. Hopefully it will be before he is gone.
rjc36 · 61-69, M
Well it sounds like you have done what you can do so try not to worry about it and just be there if they ever have that change of mind to have you as part of their lives. @dominoesgirl
JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F
@dominoesgirl Forgiving someone does not mean that you must associate with them, be around them or that you care to be.
Keepitsimple · 56-60, F
I can kind of relate to this story in some ways. My step siblings thought my father was wonderful and he loved his second family more because they had no idea what a piece of crap he was. Your brother and sister may have memories of your father that they can’t forgive him for. Being you are blood related it would be nice for you to have a relationship with them regardless of their feelings for your father.
dominoesgirl · 36-40, F
@Keepitsimple Yeah right. I'm from a different mom and a dad they seem to hate. My brother didn't even TEXT my dad for Father's Day! It is so jacked up! I can't STAND how they treat him! I know it sounds horrible, but to me it feels as though I should be left with everything if he dies after my mom. Why should children who purposely have no relationship with their parent be given anything after death? Pretty selfish of them. Our dad has given them all of the sentimental items he has had through the years that they may have memories with.
Keepitsimple · 56-60, F
@dominoesgirl I do see your side for what it’s worth. I know you see a different man and have a different relationship with your father than they do. My step siblings were 1 and 3 when my father and their mother got together and their is a huge gap between us. They saw a man on his best behavior while we had the worst memories. He liked them better because of that too. One day you’ll have to sit down with your siblings and have a heart to heart. That’s my best advice.