I Have a Sibling
I might as well not have siblings. My dad had 2 kids in his first marriage. They are 9 and 13 years older than me. I am my mom and dad's only child together (my parents are still married). My dad screwed things up with his first marriage, and even with us kids, but he has stood up and apologized to us for all of his wrongdoings, and even apologized to his ex-wife. I love my dad so much, but to see him continuously TRYING to build a relationship with my siblings is so hard. I have given up. We are always the ones calling them or going to visit. I have lived in Tennessee for 4 years now and they have never talked about visiting. My parents have now lived in Tennessee for a year, and no talks of visiting them, either. I'm 1.5 hours away from my parents, so I see them every month. I just wish my brother and sister would give our dad a chance. He has made his mistakes, but he has taken ownership of them, too.
Our dad's health is not that great, either. How bad is it that I don't want them at his funeral? I mean, they have nothing to do with him now, so why should they be there? To me, it feels pointless.
I have tried to have a relationship with them for years, but they won't have it. My brother seems to really hate me, and my sister isn't much better. I have a niece and nephew I never see or talk to because of the relationship with my siblings. I'm going to my niece's graduation this coming May and I have no idea what to say to her. I've seen her less than 10 times her entire life, probably. Same with my nephew. My brother won't even text our dad for his birthday or father's day, or anything.
I don't know what else my parents or I can do to get through to them that we are trying, and wanting a relationship. My mom and I figure that, after dad dies, we will have no more contact with them at all. Not like we'll be missing much. My best friend's step-kids are more like a niece and nephew to me. I hate feeling this way. I want to have a relationship with my sister and brother, but they won't have it. I can't even hold a conversation with them because when I try, they just stop replying to my texts.
Our dad's health is not that great, either. How bad is it that I don't want them at his funeral? I mean, they have nothing to do with him now, so why should they be there? To me, it feels pointless.
I have tried to have a relationship with them for years, but they won't have it. My brother seems to really hate me, and my sister isn't much better. I have a niece and nephew I never see or talk to because of the relationship with my siblings. I'm going to my niece's graduation this coming May and I have no idea what to say to her. I've seen her less than 10 times her entire life, probably. Same with my nephew. My brother won't even text our dad for his birthday or father's day, or anything.
I don't know what else my parents or I can do to get through to them that we are trying, and wanting a relationship. My mom and I figure that, after dad dies, we will have no more contact with them at all. Not like we'll be missing much. My best friend's step-kids are more like a niece and nephew to me. I hate feeling this way. I want to have a relationship with my sister and brother, but they won't have it. I can't even hold a conversation with them because when I try, they just stop replying to my texts.
36-40, F
