I Want a Girlfriend

Make no mistake, these were 2 different women, I'm single now, and I know it's a weird concept, mainly because guys typically don't see the world outside their own selfish desires, I want my son to have a way better life than I had

Ok..... I'm going to have to break this down, I send home food with my son every week, not to help his mom, but to make sure my son has food, say a woman I'm seeing says "don't waste your money that way" ultimately I'm taking care of my son, or if say one week I want to take my son to the zoo, but my gf doesn't want to go and thus tries to make me feel guilty for spending time with my son..... these two instances actually happened

Don't listen to all these young girls. they probably don't even have kids. You're completely right.

Sounds like you already know she's showing obvious red flags. Someone who cares would never make you pick but admire that you're a good father & that family is important to you. This is interesting to me from a single father perspective because I've always heard single mothers sides more with this problem.

Lol well I do, but I will not be forced to choose between them or my son, there is no contest, and I won't settle for someone who's just gonna treat me like shit, I've been there too many times already

Why not have both? Your son and a girlfriend. A good woman will not want you to sacrifice your son for her, but you must be willing to give her some attention and affection too.

You are right to put your son first. You are the only father he has. The women you described are selfish or ignorant. They will find others, but your son will not find another father.

Well then I'm in deep trouble, because my son is my number one, I'm affectionate to my woman and take care of them, but ultimate I will not choose them over my son

Ruby is right. A man's first responsibility is his woman. Even kids come second to that.

That's great. your kids should always be #1

What? You want a girlfriend or not?

Finding a woman that you'll get to know & eventually love equal should be the goal for family. Not trying to pen them against each other from the start by saying there's never anyone you'll love as much as your son. There should be no favorites in family & important people in your life

To clarify: A man should take care of his woman first. A woman should take care of the kids first. The kids should honour their father first. This grand cycle makes for a happy family.

... and that makes you a smart man and an amazing father! Don't ever settle.