Have you ever loved someone that didn't love themself?

@Aidolovemostofyourthoughts: The guy knows he has to do better, and wants to do better, but can't. I don't think he wants to hurt her, but it's something beyond his control. It's just a bad situation all around

@HalfCactus: My ex couldn't help himself either. It was just the way he was. But sometimes people being just as they are can hurt other people they let in their lives. She can choose to be with him but she will always be miserable because he can't help himself. Or she can leave, feel terrible for a while but slowly gather her life back. I chose to be selfish after giving him almost 4 years of my life, out of which over 3 years were painful. The thing is, he did genuinely love me. Which made it harder to leave when I should have a lot earlier.

@Aidolovemostofyourthoughts: As someone that didn't love himself until very recently, I would agree with you. I think the guy needs a lot of reflection before he can improve, and a breakup, albeit painful for everyone, would benefit them in the long run. It took almost a year of heartache and misery before I finally came around