Rich dad charged us $1500 after the fact, for moving expenses, moved to be closer to them. Wtf

My dad Owns a business.. makes 30 million a year... over the years he’s developed this mindset that we take advantage of him financially, it all started when he paid for college and it got expensive and I guess at the time we were ungrateful. Rightfully so, we’ve since apologized and it’s been 14 years... but as time has gone by he’s made it very clear he’s super resentful about this “everyone takes advantage of me thing” so for example when my husband and our family and I all go out to eat, he insists we all split it, which is fine. And now we offer every time and always split. Secondly, like they fly us out to Hawaii .. when we get there they expect us to pay $800 to rent a car for a week.. um hello!! We have kids in daycare like we don’t have that sort of money.. so we ride bikes and get judged for it the entire time we are there,. We’ve offered to not go to Hawaii but then we are ungrateful.....Those are 2 examples of a million.. well todays story is that we are moving to The same city be closer to them.. we’ve spent almost 9 grand with our housing situation to try and live in a house near their neighborhood, we are trying to put our children in a new daycare but it’s ghastly expensive and we are stretched.. so despite me having a job where I work from home, I’ve kept the little ones home for the week because we just don’t have $1600 extra dollars to put down for daycare. I’m killing myself trying to work and watch the kids at the same time..in a couple weeks hopefully we will have enough to make it work.. But don’t right now because of moving expenses.. to add to this, my dad offered to have his company workers help us move. We are delighted that they would be willing to help, he thinks it’ll be around $500-$600 so we budget for that. We tell him to bring 2 trucks it’s a lot of stuff and a long drive and it’s by the hour it would take 2 loads instead of 4 with 2 trucks vs1...Well he sends one truck.. and it takes 13 hours.. and his secretary tells us it’s a $1200 bill.. not to mention they broke our tile which we had to pay $280 to fix to our landlord.. almost $1500 cost for moving. Well rightfully so my husband is freaking out.. I ask my dad if we can split it in to payments into 2.. his response, not a care in the world “work it out with my secretary”.... the crappy part is I got a quote from a moving company for $600 beforehand.. we could have avoided all of this...My parents meanwhile are in Hawaii like not a care in the world to help us,..Meanwhile my in-laws are all like can we help with the baby, what can we do to make things easier. They’ve bought us a car, laptop, paid first months rent before and they don’t make more than maybe $80k... just so generous with time and money...and they themselves are limited in their resources but so giving. I’m in a place where I want to confront my parents but don’t want to sound entitled. They just seem to kick us when we are down and have no interest in being there for us unless it benefits them. Do I sound silly to have concerns about a $5-600 moving bill that turned into a $1500 one and my dad who has all the ability in the world to let us split the payment or even reduce it. has no interest in helping us sort it out or work it out, when we’ve moved there to be closer to them.