I hate seeing people in pain... it puts me in pain.... anyone feel this way?
ThePerfectUsername · 70-79, M
Sort of. When you hurt. I hurt.
When you care deeply for someone that's just the way it is.
But I always know/remember that my hurt is less than your hurt - and remembering that simple fact empowers me to look for solutions rather than just immersing myself in pure feeling, which wouldn't do either of us any good.
Empathy without boundaries = self destruction.
And forgetting I hurt less is a boundary I refuse to cross. Because crossing it would make us both victims. And that's not something any responsible caring adult would allow.
When you care deeply for someone that's just the way it is.
But I always know/remember that my hurt is less than your hurt - and remembering that simple fact empowers me to look for solutions rather than just immersing myself in pure feeling, which wouldn't do either of us any good.
Empathy without boundaries = self destruction.
And forgetting I hurt less is a boundary I refuse to cross. Because crossing it would make us both victims. And that's not something any responsible caring adult would allow.
wildbill83 · 41-45, M
lovingdead · 31-35, M
marineaqua · 22-25, F
No.
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marineaqua · 22-25, F
@ScarletWitch No, I just have several personality disorders.
ScarletWitch · 31-35, F
@marineaqua what does that have to do with feeling the pain of others?
marineaqua · 22-25, F
@ScarletWitch Well, certain personality disorders severely inhibit your ability to emphasise with other people or even recognise that they experience pain. I can empathise quite successfully on a general scale and with specific members of my family, but I find it difficult to “feel” for anyone else who may be feeling pain at any given point.