African American teacher/daycare owner calls daughter Barbie? I really don’t want to be...

Dainbramadge · 56-60, M

When I first started reading this, I thought it was cute that they called her Barbie. To me meaning she was cute. But as I read on I realized you are so very right. It was a racial jab. I'm not just saying this. Most people will make a claim like I am about to but take what I say as true. African Americans are very racist. I have know a few very well and as soon as the ice is broken you find out just how deep those still waters run. If I were you I would get her out of that environment before she is old enough to realize what is happening. I am sure, and I think it is a great idea of yours, you won't have any problem finding another daycare that is divers.

xixgun · M

You should have paused instead of smiling and nodding and said, "Who? My daughter's name is ____. Are you having difficulty remembering my daughter's name?"

No, move your kid (racial bias is very much a two way street, despite what Don Lemon would have you believe).

SW-User

I would have politely said, "oh my daughter's name is___, and even though I think your nickname for her is so cute, could you please call her by her name so she isn't confused". Smile big then thank her for understanding. 😁

RooiSoosSkarlakenWitSoosSneeu · F

I can understand, the comment wouldn't sit well with me

bijouxbroussard · F

Have you ever [b]asked[/b] her about it, or just told her, “hey, that’s [b]not[/b] my child’s [b]name[/b] ?” ‘Barbie’ is not necessary a slur.

LookingForIt987 · 51-55, M

I'm going to go ahead and assume your daughter's name isn't Barbara, right? ;)

Assuming it's not, I agree with the others who suggested that you should ask her about it. Do so calmly - if you appear worked up, it'll immediately put her on the defensive (it's a natural reaction), and then things can escalate pretty easily.

I would base my decision on leaving in large part on her answer. (There are other practical considerations to switching as well - such as whether you could find another place you liked and such.)

Peppa · 31-35, F

Unfortunately I dont know what to add to this. I mean, it sounds off but I think someone advised asking iff they forgot her name. Anyways what I will say is that this is often how black children feel, and it's not fair. Discrimination is discrimination talk first move if the problem persists.
I will say this though some black people do give pet names that are about poking fun, but not intentionally malicious.
Well in my experience as a young black woman anyways

FloorGenAdm · 51-55, M

Being "woke" isn't a sprint it's a marathon.

rckt148 · 61-69, M

Maybe you should ask why the name
maybe he is just saying she is just a little doll
and the only one thinking about race is you

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